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writes:i am 16 years old and i have a sister who is one year older than me.we always had a nice relationship,like all siblings have.i also have a friend(girl)whom i met 10 years ago and she is 16 as well.we always were very close,she used to be my best friend.but things and people change and 10 years later,now,i became a shy and very silent teenager and she became an outgoing,loud and funny teenager,just like my sister.so they became good friends.2 or 3 months ago we used to be very close.we hanged out always together,just the 3 of us.not long ago,we found out about a cafeteria where every "cool" guy from school went there.actually,we hanged out there a long time ago,but that 3 past months it became our obsession.we were there every single day.the truth is that i wasn't so thrilled about it,but i liked it.whenever i tried to say about going somewhere else,they both got angry with me.so,i never said anything.until one day i was so angry,i told my best friend that it was either me or "them"!"them" were a couple of guys who were about our age and went to that cafe,too.my best friend liked one of them,so there was another reason for her to hang there.after what i told her,she didn't reply,and i assumed she prefered them.so,for almost 2 weeks we weren't talking to each other.then,one day we finally spoke and became friends again.but that didn't mean she or my sister stopped going to the cafe.we still hanged there,peacefully without ever mentioning about what happened.but,the last 3 weeks im starting to feel that both of them,my best friend and my sister changed their behaviour towards me,especially my friend.she used to have a relationship with one of that guys and she loved him,but he was only playing with her.now,they are supposed to be friends but she still loves him.so,she is obsessed with him.i think that's the reason she seems to doesn't care about me.when i talk to her she either doesn't listen and doesn't answer back,or just talks to me like i am her little brother.when i talk to her about someone i like she won't respond,but when i talk to her about her ex boyfriend she always smiles and speaks to me in a nice way.i feel im being neglected by my own friend and my own sister.i just want my friends back..i know i should go and talk to them but im sure that everything will be solved and seem perfect for a while,but later things will be the same,just like before.on the other hand,i think that maybe things will not turn out to improve,but i feel im going to argue a lot with them and im afraid im going to lose them..after all,it's not easy to make friends,especially for me,because i am a very shy girl...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): I know excatly how you feel, but anyway to answer your question i think you should stay away from your friend. She will only cause the hurt and pin you will feel or feeling right now. The second thing is maybe you should try talking to them about what bothering you privetly, so that they can both listen. If you speak to her privatly , she wont ignore you because it will obviously feel akward. As for your sister, shes just a sister, and thats how sisters act.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): Stop being goofy. Your friend and sister just need a good talking to. If you don't tell them exactly how you feel without holding anything back they're never going to get it across, and who cares if they want to go to a specific cafe, just don't go with them when they go.
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