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writes:I was 3 months from marriage and my fiancé broke up with me. She decided to give up her life in another state and move to be with me. In a brief discussion about what she would bring from her exisiting home from to the one I live in, which would eventually become ours, I didnt agree with the changes she wanted to make. I soon realized I was wrong and apologized, but it still didnt sit well with her. As a result, I pulled back and became a little distant. Previously I changed some plans we had made over 6 months ago, to spend a couple of days with my children. We still kept put plans, but they were modified by 2 days. Im still very much in love with her, but she is now afraid to move forward and decided not to move. I am so sorry for the mistakes I made. She says she is through and said we should move on with our lives, but I want her back. What should I do? She
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (4 April 2011):
There has to be something else that has caused her to decide to call it off. I don't think anyone can go from genuinely in love and soon-to-marry into "lets move on with our lives" in such a short amount of time. She must have had something deep on her mind for a long time and is using your disagreement as a catalyst.
If you truly love her, you deserve to find out the truth. I realize its hard to pick up and move your life, but marriage is one of the few instances where its committed enough to be justified. I hope you discover what can bring you back together. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Just like the cops tell ya "move along, nothing to see here." She had other thoughts, and you won't change them. To try and force it will only make it worse on both of you, and WILL drive her away- in a rocketship (fast).
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (4 April 2011):
Hi - You dont describe how long you have been broken up for or the strength of your relationship at the time - although reading between the lines, it sounds like she wouldnt have decided to make the move to be with you unless she loved you and wanted to be with you.To get her back, I would think the standard ways are possibly best, flowers - little gifts saying your sorry, writing her a letter explaining that your sorry and that you love her and want to be with her. Give her time but also communicate clearly to her how you feel. Ask her what specifically she wants or is afraid of - it sounds like she got the jitters and needs to reassurance - its s a big step you where both going to take. Listen you dont fall out of love instantly so if thats there then there is always a chance this will work - and if you can say you have given if your 100% best shot to win the love you want and it doesnt work out, it wasnt meant to be.Good luck
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