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writes:This is a long story, but i will try to shorten. This began 2 yrs ago, i had been having some issues with fatigue and depression also had absolutely no desire for sex! During this time my husband of 14 yrs found someone who did like sex( 12 yrs younger too). Long story short- we reconciled things got better with me and all. I had an accident and broke leg. Was off work 13 weeks . Again he went to this girl, this time i filed for divorce. He begged me not to but i did! I moved out with our kids and thought I was happy. Before divorce final he still called me everyday 2-3 times daily to "check" on kids. In nov 2012 i had total hysterectomy. He called me while in hospital numerous times and even after at home. Divorce final 3 rd week of dec just before christmas, I fell apart during the holidays ! Then got better. I started craving sex with him! I felt horrible about everything but too late to stop it. I asked him to give me another chance. He is but now it seems i want sex more than him? We do not live together and he had been seeing the other woman after the divorce was final. But just for company he says! Am i crazy? But somehow i seem to want him more because he has been with someone else! I have not been with anyone else in 16 yrs but him. Any thoughts ( or constructive thoughts i should say)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): Become friends with benefits with him. But do NOT get back into any kind of committed relationship because you know he is a traitor and it takes so little for him to cheat after 14 years of marriage.
But if want sex with him then go ahead and have sex with him. The advantage is you already know each other so you know what you are getting. Just make it clear its only FWB and you are in no way obligated to be monogamous or take each other into consideration for future plans. And do not expect anything of the sort from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): Hi reading your follow up comment. If you love him and want him and he is commited to trying again without ploughing elsewehere , then give the relationship a chance. Sometimes we only appreciate what we have once we have lost it. In yours and your ex husbands case, you have another shot, just pray he does not mess it up again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): Its you wanting what you cant have. You kick his cheating ass to the curb for betrayal and tehn filed for a dvorce because you were is control.
Now that he is a free man to date and do as he pleases, you want him back?
Is your ex husband stil seing this other woman? If so its time to move on and for you to put this chapter behind you.
Just out of curiosity are you scared you will not find someone else and hence went crawling to the ex? With regard to wanting sex all the time. I think its just your hormones!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo he is not with her. I actually tried to stop the divorce but was too late. Thank you for your opinion
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