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writes:i broke up with my ex-boyfriend last month. after our break-up, I got sick and when he saw my facebook status about that, he called me one night and explained me why he broke up with me, how much he had loved me, we can still be friends and that i should have meals to recover from illness. from that day, we have contact. so, after weeks, i have decided to hang out with him for the last time. the first week of this month, we hang out for a movie and we ended up making out at a hotel. after that, i was afraid that we won't have contact anymore and that the hang-out was gonna be for the last time. frankly, i still want his care. so, i fake a positive pregnancy test and told him that i was pregnant. but he was telling me to test it again with him, or go to a clinic with him. i tried to refuse them, by telling him that i was so sick n just came back from a clinic. and now, we are back in our home country. he is going back to singapore next month and had told me that we will meet again after he had got back. what should i do? i want him back and that's why i don't want him to find out about my fake pregnancy. please help............
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2015): Tell him it was a false alarm asap, then make little of it.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (18 April 2015):
Look, there ISN'T a way you can get everything you want. You CANNOT keep this guy. There is nothing that anybody could suggest to get you out of this mess with this guy as your boyfriend.You can't keep lying to him about being pregnant. You would get found out pretty quickly (within a few months). And then your boyfriend would hate you and leave you ... and a lot of other people would probably have a very low opinion of you as well.You can tell him the truth, that you made the whole thing up - and, once again, he would hate you and leave you. He certainly wouldn't want to remain your boyfriend (or even your friend) since he hates lying so much.Or you can tell him one more little white lie - that it was a false alarm. That you've been to the doctor and he/she has confirmed that you're NOT pregnant. Yes, he'll probably leave you because he'll have no reason to stay - but he won't HATE you.So, it's your choice between having an ex who despises you or having an ex who at least has fond memories of you.Sometimes we just don't get what we want - that's life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2015): ". . . the thing he hates most is lying. I lied to him not because I want to; just because I love him so much."Unless you plan on getting pregnant by some random stranger and passing the kid off as your ex's or stealing another woman's baby and passing it off as yours, at some point when you haven't popped out a kid he's going to figure out you lied about being pregnant. If you are so desperate that you are willing to go to such lengths to show how much you love him no matter how miserable you make his life in the process, then I suspect you have long-term, deep-seated issues that can only be addressed under the care of a mental health professional.Please seek help before this situation spirals further out of control and ends badly for the both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThnx for your answers. But, if I tell him, it's gonna be worse. He has already told me that the thing he hates most is lying. I lied to him not because I want to; just because I love him so much. I want him back. PLease understand me. I am scared of him. I know about his anger. His words are too violent to hurt me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2015): Tell him the test was a false alarm and the reading must have been wrong, as you did a second one at home and it was negative,and that you are relieved then don't do it again!! Good luck.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2015): He will find out eventually, and if you do not come clean soon he will never forgive you and you will not even be able to be friends with him. No chance of getting him back.
You should tell him right away that you are not pregnant after all.
Do the right thing always, even when it is hard.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 April 2015):
 Since I'm SURE you would WANT him to do right by you IF you were ACTUALLY pregnant, DO the same for him.
TELL him the truth and OWN the consequences of your lies.
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