A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i want to get my ex back...i know he doesn't love me...but takes me only as a friend..we still talk....but the reason he left me was due to my constant questioning about girls messaging him and girls roaming about with him..he didn't have had any affair with any girls....but i was badly possesive in his case and couldn't see him talkin or interracting with any other girl...i know that was bcoz it was the first time i was in love..and was very cautious about the relationship..and thus was scarred to loose him...he hated me questioning him regularly ...which finally ended with everyday fights....it bugged him...I realised it after many days...and by that time i was very late...he couldn't afford to carry on the relationship anymore...and had quit it immidietely....he didn want me anymore that way in his life.....i but after realising my impulsive behaviour..i did repent badly...coz i knew by that time i missed him from my life...i did try to chnage myself....i tried to be honest and took things lightly after that..i hardly argued with him..and even if he got angry on me...i didnt react back..rather i tried to cool him down...this way i always had a hope to get him back somehow....atleast timely ..and again things will be normal...and he wud come back to me...........but nothing has changed...i had completely lost him...i am still repenting.......i had asked sorry several times.....but he said that he simply wants me to b his friend...and don't want any commitment...i still talk to him...the same for hoping he'll be back someday....but he'z gettting married..soon...i often ask him not to get married so soon...but he alwayz refuses me...and talks about the pictures of those girls his mum and dad gets for him..to select among them....dayz crossed lying on bed and grabbing tightly my bedsheet.....damped with ma tears flushing out......but there is no way to make him understand that i still can reach heaven for him...i feel scared to tell him that i want him ...want him to be with me...infact i told him several times that istill love him..but h says that there is no point now coz he is already getting married...I can't do this way..am afraid he will go far away from me...itz hurting me badly...leading to lots of sleepless nights...dreaming about his marriage life with his wife....can't be described in words....am totally impatient now...i can't live that way..i want him back...help.!
View related questions:
affair, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): This is scary as I am in excly the same position , exept him and my best friend are looking to get together.
I find it very hard to get over him , with all thats happened and i am still trying to get him back with the hope that he will realise that i can make him happy.
if hes looking to get married then thers not much to do , hes ready to spend his life with someone else , thers just not much you can do except move on.Although if you notice that their relationship was just a bit of fake love and that then give him time to start realising you are the one that can make him happy but dont chase him just leav him.
the reason that they leav and dont come back is becasue they know that a girl will keep chasing them and chasing them and they enjoy that i gess. the second you show you've moved on it starts to hit them hard.believe me.
A
female
reader, SexKitten69  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Hi there,I'm affraid that if he doesn't love you there is nothing that you can do! You can't force somebody to love you and that part is the most painful thing in the world.I'm affraid that you have to try to move on with your life, if you loved him then you would want him to be happy in his life and if he wasn't happy in the relationship with you then it is going to affect him to the point where the longer the relationship runs the more emotionally hurtful it will be once it ends.You are a young woman and there is no need to rush into things, go out with friends and have fun, enjoy your life and try to get some distance from things I feel your pain as i have been in the same situation and it is emotionally draining but there is always someone better waiting out there for you and all you have to do is take the time too look. Time is a great healer of pain.Take carePlease rate :)
...............................
|
