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30-35,
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writes:Heyy,i have been with my boyfriend for a long time and i love him with all my heart, just he doesnt know what happend to me when i was younger (14) and what happend with my ex before i met my boyfriend now.well basically when i was 14 i was raped by a boy in my class, and i havent told no one,, and it really upsets me like once a year cos its the date :\ and its getting closer and its what happend last year, i was really upset and my boyfriend didnt know what was wrong with me, and i just kinda shut him out for like a week, i didnt mean too, i just didnt want to tell him, but this year i know its going to happen again, and i want to tell him but i dont know how.. im so upset by it, i do have nightmares about it, and he is in bed with me when i do and comforts me but he has never known what they were about..And about my ex boyfriend, he was abusive to me and i think my boyfriend knows just never mentioned it cos he might upset me, but i just want it out in the open and i know im safe now, and with that i have night mares, i hated what he did to me, it was horrible and i still see him!!!! which makes this so mucxh harder on me. i have never told anyone about this, and im finding it really hard to open up.so can you please help me.. i want my boyfriend to know, so he knows why i get upset and scared.im sorry its so long,, i just dont know what to do :|x
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reader, Cloverfield +, writes (12 August 2010):
 When I was 17 my girlfriend told me about the abuse she suffered as a child...... the best advice I can give you, based on my experience, is to prepare him in advance. Do not just sit him down & drop this bombshell on him. Tell him you have to talk about your past, tell him there is something specific & that its bad. Also, make sure you have plenty of privacy & time for the discussion as it's going to be highly emotional. I hope it goes ok.
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