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41-50,
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writes:I need help....I find my friend's wife attractive and I am afraid that I desire her....We were watching a game few years ago and when our team scored,everybod was jumping, congrulating each other and me and her hugged each other...It was strong hug....After that,while we were watching my arms touching her,i could feel her skin...That made me feel so excited and got erection....I know it is not nice to have this thought but i cannot help it...She has kids and take care of your house,loves her husband and really decent person...We were giving each other gifts,like when i visit them I was going with bunch of flower and she was giving me gifts when it is my birthday....One day, while were chatting on the internet I told her that I like her and telling her about her dressing style,her hair etc...She was surprised but she did say she likes me as friend and likes sharing things with me...I said to her, I would have touched her If she was here with me,hugged her again....She said stop because I am confuded with all this....We kept writing and it was late we went to sleep....Since then, we are still keep in touch and never open this subject again...She said, let it go,time will recover all those thoughts and she was very nice to help me to forget her...I am not sure If she really realizes that I wanna seduce her or I am already doing it!!!I do not know If she wants to play this also...Because she was telling me that we have been in touch for few years and for the first time I mentioned this or it could be something else...She never described what "something else" means, I did not ask her what she means with this also...She also corrected me when I was talking about one of her dresses,like she said I cannot remember If I have a blue dress and put a smile and of the sentence...Can you imagine I am talking about her in a different way and she was making joke when I did not describe her dress....She might like it the way I talked to her....( by the way, I was having a sexual relation with her friend few years ago,this is another point I would like to add)But know she knows it that i like her....They live in another town and I am not sure if I go and see them, I am not sure If I will be comfortable to see her...I do not know what to do!!!!As we are still keep in touch via internet should I try to talk to her about sex( if yes, what do I have to tell her????) to see how she reacts,and my desire on her???( by the way, I was having a sexual relation with her friend few years ago,this is another point I would like to add...The girl whom I was sleeping with told me one day that she saw the marks on her neck after strong sex we had...So the woman knows the rule of the game and the sex with passion....)I am so angry with my self once again because she is my friend's wife....I am very angry why do I have this thought and desire?Please help me....
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 You sound full of yourself. This woman has let you know that she is not interested in having sex with you, yet you continue to try to seduce her. No means no! You're lucky she hasn't told her husband. I hope you can fight because I'm sure he'll kick your ass.
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reader, sashana  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 Let me just say first of all get that girl out of your head.you need to be serious,i mean thats your BEST FRIEND'S WIFE!!! leave her alone there are plenty of other women out there.need i say more?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 'She has kids and take care of your house,loves her husband and really decent person...'
'she did say she likes me as friend '
'I am so angry with my self once again because she is my friend's wife....I am very angry'
our words say it all...she may regard you as a friend but she doesn't want to take things further.
Get a grip of yourself and just STOP!!! it's obesessive weird and creepy!!! and thats just what she will think of you if you keep on.
SHE IS MARRIED!!!...so stop already!!!
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (29 November 2009):
 You are deluding yourself if you think you can get anywhere with your friends wife.She likes you as a friend, she has already told you that. If she wanted more, she has had plenty of opportunities to say so. Just because you touched her, and YOU liked it, that doesn't mean anything. Just because you dream about her, and fantasise about her, that means even less. People generally want what they can't have.Also you are showing little or no respect for your 'best friend'. Think about it, grow up, and go find yourself a real woman.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 November 2009):
 Ok, I will help you with your problem. You need counselling and urgently. You have already admitted to one affair and although you seem to be superficially apologising for liking another married woman...you don't really mean it, you are caught up in the excitement and 'what if' possibility of it all. I cannot tell you for sure what the other woman is thinking but to be honest, I think she is just humouring you. There is a major difference between feeling attraction for a friend's partner and acting on that attraction. You are trying to act on it and nothing good will come of it. You will wreck her marriage and the whole friendship shared between you, her husband and herself. Because you have already had an affair with another member of your social circle, you need help as you are setting yourself up for a very bad way of living out your life since you haven't developed a normal sense of boundaries and acceptable behaviour. Of all the people I have ever known who are involved in extra-marital affairs all share a common set of traits - lack of morality, lack of ability to take responsibility for their own actions and lack of impulse-control. Your apparent self-anger suggests you are deeply unhappy with the situation you find yourself in and need to get some help to straighten out your way of living.
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