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writes: Me and my best friend are real close. I want to be more than just friends with her, and I think she might feel the same way. The problem is that she is already goin with someone and I don't know if I want to risk messing up our relationship as friends by asking her out, or by telling her that I want to be more than just friends. And I don't really know how close she is with the guy she is dating, and I dont want to ruin it for her. I'm desperate for advice here...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2006): well you should give her some signals and see if she replyes but dont inbarrase her like when shes with her boyfriend you go out with a girl and when she noticed you with that girl you kiss that girl and see if she looks jealous!!
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reader, kjandrew +, writes (29 January 2006):
kjandrew is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Clairel, and im 15 btw.
I'll take your advice and on monday I'll tell her that my other friend thinks we would make a good couple.
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reader, Claire1 +, writes (28 January 2006):
I think that this is unfortunately a situation that nearly everyone goes through at some point in their lives. First of all, I don't know your age, but when I was in a similar situation when I was at school, the best way I dealt with it was to throw myself into having fun with other friends, going out more, going to local youth clubs more, etc then by the time I left school and went to college, me and my friend who I fancied went to different colleges and made new friends then I met someone else! Like I said I don't know how old you are but I think if you are at that age where you will be moving on in life such as school or college age then , things change very quickly and you meet new people all of the time and move on in life. However, you and your friend sound really close so there are a few ways you could handle the situation. You need to think about the pros and cons of telling her how you feel, do you think it may ruin the friendship or do you think if she did not feel the same, would it be something you both could move on from and make your friendship stronger? Also she already has a boyfriend and you mentioned you weren't sure how close they were. Do you socialise together the three of you at all? Perhaps you could suggest this and this may be a clue to how close your friend is to her boyfriend? If she thinks it's a good idea then perhaps she is really keen on her fella? How about getting another one of your friends to ask your best friend if she fancies you? Or you could say something to your friend such as 'you know such and such thinks we would make a great couple! What do you think?' You could drop hints around the situation and see her reactions. She could feel the same as you but may also be unsure about how you feel! It is a difficult situation, I have experienced this a few times. Sometimes it's best to find out how someone you like feels about you, ask them out, or tell them how you feel, before its too late and they find someone else, or they stay with their current partner even though they might rather be with you!
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