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writes:I have been seeing a girl the last few months, its long distance of sorts being about 2hours travel apart. We meet as much as we can as our jobs and busy personal lives will allow us. Yesterday things came to a head however after an arugement.On saturday night I wanted to surprise her with a dinner made for her and romantic bubble bath, bottle wine and some candles, you'd think any woman would be kill for this kind of gesture from a man. The dinner went fine but the bubblebath idea..I got a simple Im not in the mood from her! This isnt the first time she has flat out killed a chance of romance in our relationship. So after being told that I was understandbly upset as it was first chance we've had in long time for some romance and I couldnt possibly see her saying no to this but she did. Sunday morning I explained in calm manner how it hurt that she again refused a chance at romance in our relationship and that it had upset me, when I pushed for her opinion on the matter to gauge how she felt I got the usual answer I do... I dont know. Im tired of hearing this from her and need her to open up and explain how she feels about this stuff. She refuses to talk about sex and says we have plenty of time to have romance as we have our whole lives.Yesterday we had an arguement which was caused by me, it probably steemed from saturday nights experience and now she has finished the relationship as 1) she feels I pick arguements too often and 2) she cant make me happy. She says she loves me all the time but all I want is for a few more romantic moments in the relationship as I feel we both deserve better than hook ups after drinking binges!I would value your opinion on this as I have been told before I pick unecessary arguements at times and admit this to be my fault, but this time I feel I have been patient a number of months and would like her to open up to me and also to enjoy more intamacy and romance from someone I care greatly for.Do you feel I am wrong to ask her to open up and possibly tell me of her past as I firmly believe our pasts is what makes up the people we are today, is there more to her turning romance down?
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reader, 1trainer1  +, writes (14 October 2008):
i sympathise with you as i know from personal experience that long distance relationships do not work, i was in one and everytime i wanted romance my gf would think all i was interested was in sex, i used to see her every weekend and i loved her and wanted to make love to her but she was never in the mood and to her all i wanted was sex and we always sued to argue until i got fed up and had to end it before i went crazy.....
sorru i cannot give you more support...good luck
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reader, blackberry008  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Is she a virgin?
Or maybe she was raped before?
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