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writes:Hi I was just wondering am I wrong to be feeling guilty? I have been in a casual relationship for 11 months now, I have wanted more since we met and I have told him that. he recently told me he still loved his ex even though they split up two years ago. he is not nice with me, he texts me at 2am wanting sex, he has promised to take me out which has never happened, I never see him unless he wants sex.what makes it worse is he lives 10 seconds away from me so I went out at weekend all dressed up and made him jealous just by dancing and flirting with other men, I know I shouldn't have done it but I just wanted him to see what he is missing sorta thing. should I be feeling guilty or not? I still really like him, he text me to see what my night was like but that was it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): Why buy the cow . . . It is old advice but it is just as true today as it ever was.FWB is a mutual agreement. He uses your body for easy sex. You use your body to raise your standards and sleep with a more attractive man. When you get tired of feeling this way it's time to quit it.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 February 2012):
 I don't think the guy is bothered by you flirting with other men. He's not in a relationship with you, he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, he is still in love with his ex. He's explained this all to you but your not listening. The only reason why he sees you is because he wants to have sex. You told him you loved him, he told you he loved his ex. You told him you went out dancing and flirting.. all he said was how was your night.What can't you understand. Your available, he lives near, he could ask you to be his girlfriend any time. But he's not interested in you, he's just interested in having an orgasm.Having sex with a man doesn't have anything to do with love. Prostitutes do it easily. I suggest you end this relationship now before you get badly hurt. There is nothing you can do to change his feelings, he has explained, he's not interested in you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 February 2012):
 He does not care what he is missing... because for him he is missing nothing.. he gets sex when he wants it... and does NOT want a relationship with you...
just sex. that's what FWB means...
it means sadly most of the time ONE person wants more, the other is just accepting the sex knowing the other person wants more.
You need to not feel guilty but you need to stop having sex with him because he will never be more than a fuck buddy...
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reader, Zebramoose +, writes (6 February 2012):
NOPE. You're free to do whatever you want since you guys are not in a committed relationship.
Think of things like this: If you weren't having sexual relations with him, what would you be doing, if anything RIGHT NOW with him? Probably nothing. He's using you and you're using him, but you're letting feelings get involved which is never wise with a FWB situation.
I think you need to go out more, and see more guys, have more FWBs, and he will quickly lose his luster.
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