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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:DEAR CUPID I have been messing around with this guy at work for a month now, when we first started out he told he was not looking for a relationship and also he said that I was going to catch feelings for him in a joking way but he was right, now I have came to really like him. I was always the one to text him and make more of an initiative but I have stopped completely. We have been together intimately and now when I see him it drives me crazy cause I really do like. I know how to put my feelings aside, I know he likes me, the other day he text me how my day was and when I asked him he never responded because he obviously is playing a game, I want more but I can't have everything I want so what do I do, please help! P.S I am in my early 20's and he is in his early 30's
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): Sweetness he is using your body. He deceives you to have sex. You have sex for a different reason but he is looking for sex only. He lured you into it. Report the jerk to police and I hope he gets raped in jail.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 You are very young, and female so, totally driven by emotional feeling, where as this man feel satisfied with 'sensual feeling'...just smooth, wet, warm touch only...He has made his attitude clear. And, it is your turn to learn the difference between 'emotional feeling' and 'sensual feeling'. If you miss this difference, then you will not be the leader of your life. Be firm and clear about the difference between these two type of 'feeling'.
'Emotional feeling' is in your hand, you can decide your standard about 'emotional feeling', where as 'sensual feeling' is taken for granted, it is universal and at all exclusively 'personal'.
If you can control your 'emotional feeling'...then you will win...you will be the leader of your own life, your own happiness...etc etc. By learning these difference...you will be able to make better choice about person...and will have all you want, or more than you could think about.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Just because you have feelings doesn't mean you have to act on them. He knows what he's doing to you, making you all flustered then frustrated. When your feelings subside he's probably going to give you another dose of flirting chemical keeping you hooked to him, when that happens, ignore him completely knowing that he's going to deny your needs again.
The frequently used line "I am not looking for a relationship", is such a turn off to me. How can you like someone who can't handle a real woman, a real relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): He was looking for a friends with benefits relationship from the very beginning and apparently he was very straightforward about it. You have one of 2 options here; either accept the situation as it is, or break up with him if your feelings are taking control of you.
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