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writes: Hey, so this guy is moving soon in one month, and we like each other. i want him to make a move or like kiss me or something. but we are both socially awkward dorks. how can i get him to at least hold my hand without either of us freaking. im desperate, as i only have a month with this perfectly geeky dork and want to make it special. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 July 2013):
 Honey, your question was fully answered, - just not in the way you wanted .
Why, do you think that when posters asks us " how to do " stuff that's stupid, detrimental or harmful for them, we are morally obliged to just tell them how ? If someone says " how to rob a bank " - " don't do it " is not a full answer, in your mind :) ?
Agreed, kissing this boy is not against the law, lol, but, to some extent, it may get you hurt. That's a puppy love that you don't have the means to live serenely and completely ( even if your ardour is requited, which is still to be seen ). You might see him again- or you might not. And " seeing " somebody randonly, every few months, but with no plan or possibility of being reunited within a reasonable time frame, - it's not a relationship, it' s a childish fantasy that would just work you up in a lather of illusion, frustration and teen angst. We just wanted you to spare that, because a little kiss is not really worth all the drama.
Anyway, if you are dead set in getting this kiss, and determined to ignore our opinions- and, seen your age bracket, it makes sense that you are...- then it's simple. You've got to take things into your hands, don't count on help from a clumsy goofy boy your age - SOME are smooth and slick even at that age, but the vast majority won't know how to handle the situation, and won't even get hints. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Only the brave etc. You've got to bite the bullett, and tell him ( or e-mail him )- that it's such a shame that you are going to be separated soon, and that you'll miss him so much, and you know that he'll miss you too since you are so close and similar, you've got a month left, doesn't he too want to make it special, doesn't he want to make it a month to remember ?... After, who knows, and failing all else hopefully you can stay friends, but for this last precious month you would love to be his gf, or his date at least. To put away good memories for when you'll be apart.
He should be a heart of stone to deny you that :).
But you need to tell him, and do not try to be subtle, subtle does not cut it with young boys !
I still think it's a bad idea, and you should move on.... anyway, hey, best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy question was not fully answered. actually, our moms are bffs so we MIGHT see each other, and also, we even both have the same mental stuff. like sometimes we throw tantrums due to a disorder. and i can talk to him about it. we like all the same stuff, and adore each other. so keeping this in mind, could you pleeese help me. im overthinking, i think.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (2 July 2013):
Didn't you say he is leaving in a month ?
You can't possibly carry on an LDR at 13-15, once he's gone he is gone, so what's the difference if you kiss him or hold his hand a couple of times ?
You'll just stoke up on fuel for longings and nostalgia and useless romantic fantasies... avoiding to keep your eyes open for maybe some cute nice LOCAL guy that can be a good " special friend " (
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2013): I understand how scary it can be. It's tough to make that move, so how about you do it in a way that seems natural? Walking around with him in a new area or something, in a crowd, use it as an excuse to grab his hand a guide him. Then, just don't drop it. See how he reacts. Look at him, give him a smile. I think he'll get the hint. I've had guys to it do me before.
Or, on an even better idea, just tell him. Guys are thick, life is short. Just do it. If he feels the same, great, if not he's leaving and you'll never have to see him again. Easy. Good luck.
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