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female
age
36-40,
*ikiki
writes:His ex causes him pain and distress. They split up officially 4 months ago and he has been emotionally involved with me for 7 months. He told me he had feelings for me and really, really wanted to know if I felt the same, he gave me time to think about it and when I said I do, he was really happy but when I got involved I didn't know his ex was in the picture. He wants to move on but his ex is getting in the way though he doesn't say it's her but I can see it. He feels sorry for her cos she apparently self harms and tells him she loves him. He punishes himself for not loving her back.. and it really messes with head,when I asked him if he loved her he said he 'doesn't know.' I'm afraid he does. He doesn't want to date me properly cos of it. He told me not to wait on him and now I'm messed up but I don't tell him how hurt I feel and how bad I wont him to be with me. I don't know what to do! Shall I walk away? or what shall I do? please please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): As much as I hate to say it, I think you should move on. He still cares about his ex and he realizes that because of this he won't be able to love you the way he would like to. How can he pay attention to you when he constantly worries about his ex? He told you not to wait because he knows that he has things he needs to address and fix before he can even think about having a proper relationship. Maybe you should respect his decision.
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