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writes:I have met this guy 7 months ago. Everything was perfect and I know we were in love. He did everything for me but apparently there were things that annoyed him and he didnt talk about them til last week. He said I act bad about things and I have attitude. All what happened is Is I said what I felt and told him I don't like it when he stairs at girls and we were almost breaking up but he promised not to again. I have noticed him doing it again and he started to act weird and to be like that who I am and I had to deal with it cuz I love him. We went to the beach last week and I was sick and wanted to come back home. That annoyed him and he didnt say anything and we had sex next day and went out. After that he suddenly don't want to see me and wanted some space then we broke up. He said we are different and he cannot deal with it again. I asked if we can work on it he said no. So I didn't yell or do anything but I told him I love him and I will respect his decision. And he stopped calling. I want him back. I really do. He lives 30 min away and he said he cannot drive to me anymore its annoying. I want him back. What should I do??
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reader, Jano +, writes (24 January 2009):
Jano is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was okay when we were dating, but later it started to be annoying. We used to go to the club and dance and he would spend most of the time looking at what others do. I used to see guys dancing with their girl friends and looking at them and their body and in their eyes while my boy friend was busy looking at others dancing. It was like I was dancing with myself. Imagine your gf doing that while she dance.Imagine her looking at every guy like you are not there. What that would make you feel?
He gets so quiet when others sitting next to us talk or do something. He likes to listen to others conversation.So what would you do if you and your gf are out and she just wants to listen to what others say while you eating? I was okay with all that, but if one thing bothers him then he can't deal with it. I don't really blame him. It's my fault. I should have told him that I'm not comfortable with few things he does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): It bothers me because he was totally busy of looking around and would not talk or say a word. Just look around. Aand when we used to dance I would see all guys looking at their girls except him. He is busy looking around while we danced and It was like I was not there. I avoided that but at the beginning but it started to be annoying.Imagine if you are with your gf and she dances and looks at other guys likes she is trying to seduce them. would not that make you think what is she trying to do???
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reader, random592 +, writes (23 January 2009):
Im going through a very similar thing rite now i basically broke up with a girl i love for a legitimate reason but i still love her and i honestly would take her back if she were willing to fix our little problem but she isnt making any effort to get me back so i would try a little more see if he gives u another chance because he regrets breaking up with u i kno i wuld
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): I think you should let him go and to be honest you'll have to learn how to deal with your possessive jealousy, it is perfectly normal to check out other girls, granted you have to be subtle about it when you're with your partner.It sounds like you smothered him a bit and made big deals out of small things, that sounds very insecure and it can be a lot of work for him to satisfy those insecurities. I think it's best if you moved on and examined closely in your own mind how things went wrong, try and move on and learn from this experience.Why does it bother you so much if he looks at other girls?
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