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writes:up until last week i had been seeing a married man for ten years we were perfectly happy and i loved him to pieces and accepted the situation, recently i took up golf and started getting some new girlfriends to play golf with, this was great cus it meant instead of sitting at home worrying and stressing where he was i could go out and relax. my life felt complete and my partner being there for me made me so happy, since march he had been a bit distant but said it was cus he was bust at work then last weekend i played in a mixed friendly match and things just blew up, my boyfriend then accused me of all sorts of things including sleeping around on a regular basis over the last ten years etc said he loved me to bits and couldn't live without me but couldn't forgive me any more. The hutful thing is i havn't even kissed another man let alone slept with one hes given me my keys back and the phone i bought him, but i want him back so much what do i do ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): He's got a cheek, when he's married to someone else, saying stuff about you!
I think you've got the right idea, going out and enjoying yourself with friends. Keep it up and find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): You have already made the move.
This man had you in his "clutches" manipulated you for 10 years; it was okay for him knowing you are sitting at home; waiting for the "crums" that he would spare; you had no life of your own; at his beg and call; now you have taken up golf; you are starting to live; you know what, not only is he a cheater, he acted childish and immature.
Good riddance.
Keep on moving forward; let him be;
Should he make contact with you again, and trust me he will; when he realizes you are not running after him crying and and; well please ignore him.
He is not worthy of your loyalty or love;
Get out there, go hit the golf balls and who knows you might meet the right guy to share a relationship with.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): first of all...he is married...10 years ago, married, now still married...if he loved you so much, he would have left his wife...he cheated on his wife...for 10 years...now just because you started to actually have other friends and have a social life, he's accusing you of sleeping around...leave him...its so obvious that you're just his booty call...it hurts no denying that..but there's other good guys out there so much better for you. go take a long vacation, let loose and scout for available bachelors...
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 This probably isn't what you want to hear, but sweetie, you need to let.him.go.
He's married! Why would you downgrade yourself to become 'the other woman' in his life, the one that no one knows about and if they do, think you're a tramp for being with him and purposely helping to strain his marriage to his wife?
Just move on with your life; trust me, you'll be much happier if you let him go. Continue golfing, it's obviously helped you to relax and take your mind off things - you say you usually sat at home stressed and worried about where he was?
That's not good for you.
So my advice is to move on to someone else - preferably single and will treat you better then this man ever could. Someone who will trust you (since this man doesn't and no wonder, he's a cheater, he's probably ridden with paranoia, lack of trust and guilt)
Take care.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I suspect he has met someone else and has now cheated on you... after being with someone for 10 years then to start acting all weird.... I really hate to say this, but you were in a relationship with a cheater and now he has done the same to you... What goes around comes around as the saying goes... Did you at any point in the time you were together think of how his wife was feeling???
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