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writes:i like this guy we been on a few date but yesterday he said he not thinking about a relationship with me until we act more like friends and he told me to take down the pics of us 2 off myspace and he told me to stop calling him my bf to be even though he asked me to call him that before.how should i act round him i know im banned from hugs kisses and sex with him. i gotta do this for 6 months before he will be my bf as he been hurt too much in the past and wants to make sure we will be right togetheralso how much time is too much time together
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Why are you not sligtly mad at this guy?!
He told you to call him your bf and now he decides not.
IO understand the fact that you like this guy alot. But your easy to him.
Attainable. I'm guessing he told you 6 months. In that time he can find someone barely out of reach and then gone with her instead. And he knows you'll probabaly say yes to him when he gets back.
Classic guy move.
You need to tell him that if he really wants to be friends he needs to pull some wait as well, instead of acting wierd and all of the sudden getting cold feet in public. Make yourself slightly unatainable. Make him chase you and then have him ask you on a date.
Example of guy chasing girl;
Did you see cinerella chase after her prince? No, she didn't even want him to know her name. He chased after her. She left her shoe so it'd be easier for him. Just not to easy. let him come to you.
Don't let him think that you are going to be there whenever. And i agree with smiles, If he decides that at the end of six months that you aren't compatable then there goes six months of your life.. what then? You need to have him chase you so he doesn't get bored.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I want to ask you this:
So you wait arounfd for 6 months, maybe let some good guys pass you by; then after 6 months he tells you; no he does not think you two are compatible; then what?
Then yoy have wasted 6 months of your life;
made a fool of yourself hanging around waiting for him!
No, I think yu can do better then this; you deserve better!
Why waste 6 months that you could be having fun and maybe even meet somebody who will love you and whom you can have a good relationship with?
Think about it!
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reader, Carrie216 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 He's making you wait six months? I applaud you for accepting to wait that long.
If he has been hurt in the past and that's the reason for his wanting space from you, then you should respect that. When you go to hang out, instead of just the two of you, bring along a group of his friends and your friends. That way, the pressure and/or temptation of making a move is off because you're surrounded by other people.
And if it turns out that you do lose interest in these six long months, no big deal. People change and move on. It's just a part of life. And it would be his mistake for asking you to wait for him.
Good luck.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Love is limitless, and there really is no such thing as "too much" time together. However, this is clearly not love, and he has made it very clear that he doesnt want a relationship with you. The whole idea of "waiting 6 months" is him playing with your head. If you like someone, you will not wait that long to start a relationship with them. He is playing with you. What you need to do is move on. I know, I know "but I love him". It wont be easy, I'm sure, but you cant let him play these games with you. It will ruin you. Good luck.
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