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writes: Myself and my girlfriend have being going out for the last 4 years. We were both happy with each other until recently. Two weeks ago she asked to take a break from each other as she needed a time out to figure out what she wanted. I accepted this and said we would still be in contact with each other during this break. During this time I have found that a friend she is working with has told her he fancies her.After four days she said she was happy to be on her own and didn't miss me too much. I explained that because we were both in contact with each other that it didnt seem we were on a break. The last few days we have met and I asked to try and give it another go, we both agreed on this. After the first day I knew she didn't want to do this and she was so distant from me, it hurt me. She then told me that she doesn't think she is in love with me anymore and doesn't find me attractive anymore. She asked me to give her more time. I believe that there is something still something there between us but I don't know. She said she feels this the last 2 months. Please help. I don't know what to do. Should I give her more time or move on?
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reader, pops +, writes (22 October 2005):
Move on. She is trying to nicely break up with you, and doing a very bad job. Breaking up is hard to do, but making a clean break is always better than dragging it out. You know that now. So, take the initiative, and tell her you will not be calling her again. She was hoping not to burn a bridge behind her, but that is almost cruel to men, and it is here to you. Cut it off with her, so she can stop torturing you. Yes, you will hurt, and grieve the loss of what you thought you had. Yes, she may live to regret walking away from you. But, don't bet on it. Find a girl out their that appreciates you for who you are, who you can love, too.
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