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writes:well this is a long story but ill try to keep it shortwell when i was younger i always had this guy wanting to be with me. i was scared of love when i was younger and hurt him. now that I'm older i completely with out a doubt love him with all me heart, but the thing is he loves this other girl that is using him when ever she feels she has to. she will make he really raelly happen for about a week and leave him out in the cold and not talk to him and tells everyone she hates him. well me and this guy were friends until him and the girl started going out and somehow we just stop talking until about 2 months ago and ever scents then he has been starting to get happier and theres now more of a sparkle in his eyes than before, he was starting to get happy again and as soon as she found out she has come back and shes trying to hurt him again. thing is this time hes more hesitant. he has told me more than once that he loved me but when i asked him out he said no. i think its because hes afraid of getting hurt. how do i show him that i wont hurt him and want nothing more than be in his life forever?? its more than a crush because when we weren't talking it was the worse time in my life i missed him like crazy and now that hes back every time he looks at me it makes my heart start beating faster and when he touches me it makes me melt i really do love him and want him to be happy so it kills me to see him hurt. hes always staring at me. so what do you think i should do? should i wait for him to see what shes doing to him and just be there for him? or do i just move on even tho i have tried may times
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mandalynn94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I'm being a little hesitant about tell him at this point, I really just want to be there for him, he knows I love him and he makes sure he tells me goodnight or good morning when ever he can and he tells me that he loves me, and that when he's with me he the hurt he's feeling drifts away, I plan to tell him how I feel the next time he comes over or I see him, witch will be soon I just hope he doesn't run when I tell him. things will work out one way or the other but he will always be one of my best friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I don't think you should wait and just be there NOR move on. I don't know the situation fully but I think if you talk to him gently and express yourself THE SAME WAY you told us, then I something good may happen. Don't ask him to decide right away but at least give him like a day to decide to be with you. I know my answer is filled with maybes and if's but I think there is room for another chance. He is afraid to get hurt, but maybe when you talk to him, tell him what you think is going on with him. Hopefully he will realize that you love him for him and that the woman hurting him does not care about him. We are all afraid to get hurt and sometimes we need time.
If it does not work out then stay at his side as a friend, but move on as well. You have your life to live as well, and you don't need to wait for another person's.
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