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36-40,
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writes:Sorry for bringing this up again. After a little over a year my ex and I split when she began cheating on me with another guy. I cut contact with her for while, but due to our schedules we still wound up seeing each other, even if we didnt speak, upwards of 2 times a week. I thought I was over my ex, but today we got breakfast together and all day ive been thinking about her. What she did really hurt me, yet I still want her, and I really feel lonely without her. She seems to have moved on and whatnot but I'm still stuck, even after she cheated on me!I havn't met any other women over the past several months and I guess my loneliness compounded with my horniness is making this extremely hard. I've been swamping myself with other activities and trying to meet new people and Im about to head home for winter vacation in a couple days, but I still think about her everyday, and this is after several months. Am I going to feel like this until I meet someone else? What worries me is I really hope these thoughts don't continue once I meet another girl.I don't know what to do. I feel like shit, and it hurts me to see how she has moved on and I'm still stuck thinking about her. I just wish somone else would come into my life and make me forget about her, but at this rate thats a long time coming. What can I do to stop this, I really want to stop thinking about her, but due to our activities ill still be seeing her at least twice a week, and I want to get her out of my head for good.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 You are doing all the right things and saying all the right things which will stand you in good stead and keep you strong. We are not taps to turn on and off and it's bound to hurt and rejection is a hard thing to get out of our system. Try to say to yourself. 'She did'nt want me, she wanted someone else'. (otherwise she would still be with you). Talk yourself into breaking away from your emotional bond with her. You are also right in thinking when you meet your next girlfriend it will make everything alright for you and you can put all this other stuff behind you once and for all. hope this helps.
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