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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): I am also in that same situation, but have let it drag on for 4 months trying to prove to him that I love him and he;s missing out. No, the person who broke up with you has decided to end it a while back....and has thought about it for a while before talking to you. Women are more in touch with their feelings than men, so I really don't think she is confused about how she feels. It's harder than said but, leave and find someone who will be happy to be with you. If you keep making yourself vulnerable to her, you will end up feeling empty and used. You will miss her; remember that it's natural in a breakup. Missing her doesn't mean it's meant to be. Good luck and take care.
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reader, mystify +, writes (4 January 2006):
 hi , i wanted to tell you that i was i this situation once, i just couldnt let go, he said he couldnt be with me, but i couldnt accept it and felt if i could only proove how much i loved him , proove that we were meant to be together hed come round oneday, i am regrettful to say i let this carry on for 5 years! , now looking back i was just there giving a comfort pillow to fall back on, which can be hard for people to turn down when it there being offered on a plate, even after the rejections. i wish i had just let it be when he told me he didnt want our relationship anymore because it was all heartache at every turn and i wasted so much of my life and let so many potential relationships go cos of it.
the best thing is to let go and find someone who wants you as much as you want her
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Angel,
There is a reason she broke it off with you, chances are she is seeing someone else. I know you love her but a relationship is a two way contribution and if she does not want the relationship, don't pressure her into one.
You said she said it's cause she doesn't love you the way she should, start seeing other people and let her realise just how much she has lost.
Love never dies it just gets lost in the heart, and the more time you give her the more she will notice that there is something missing and when she realises it's you then she will hopefully come back.
Be her friend but don't push to hard, be her shoulder to cry on , but don't be the one to make her cry.
If you love her let her go, if she comes back, she is meant to be yours, if she doesn't then she never was.
All the best
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reader, Hugglebuddy +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Okay well first of all you have to give her some space if you completely crowd her with gifts and telling her how much you love her it will just iritate her and put her off more! So back off a bit let her know that you will always love her and that your always there if she needs you as a friend and leave it at that for a while so she establishes that your not one of those obbsessive guys or jelous types. She will except you going out with her and other friends then after a while of some space, talk to her ask her what went wrong see if there is any chance of you and her being together if she says no, as horrible as it is and trust me i have been there you have to except it like a decent person and let her move on even if it kills you inside. Good luck i hope i've helped. :)x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): Leave her alone for a few days to have some time alone to think things through, it might be that she needs to evaluate her feelings for you and consider where she sees the relationship going. After a few days find a place to talk and ask her how and when her feelings changed. Ask her how she beilieves she should love you.
Tell her how and why you love her and what first attracted you to her, this might jog her memory and get her to consider things from your perspective.
Give her time, the last thing you want is to put too much pressure on her.
Ask her if she thinks there could be any chance of you getting back together and explain all the reasons why you think the relationship will work. Whatever you do don't force the issue, it must be her decision to come back to you and it has to be for the right reasons. If she still doesn't want you back I think you should get on with your life and give her even more time. If this is supposed to be it will happen eventually
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reader, StarNews +, writes (27 December 2005):
 The only thing you can do is give it some time and you will have your answer. Give it about 2 weeks. I would not contact her during this time. Either she will discover how much she misses you or that she is happier without you. When you miss someone, it means that you love them and cannot live without them. The only way to know that is to spend some time apart. So time and patience is the key. She already knows that you love her, so I dont feel you need to show or prove anything to her at this point. Who knows, with time, your feelings may change and you may feel differently about her. That is a risk she is willing to take.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (27 December 2005):
 I am so sorry to hear that you are going through so much pain. It is hard when a break up happens, especially if you don't really understand how it could have happened when you seem so perfect together. The problem here lies with her and her own feelings, I don't think showing her how much you love her will change the relationship status because she doesn't feel in love with you. The best advice I can offer you is to try to work through your pain and accept that it is over. In the end you will see that it is much better to be without her if she does not love you, it would only cause you more pain and confusion to continue to invest your feelings into a one sided relationship. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): I am sorry to tell you this, but you can't make her love you. I know your pain. My boyfriend doesn't love me and I love him lots. You just have to give her time. If she really does love you she will come around. If not, she wasn't worth it anyway.
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reader, sheshe445 +, writes (27 December 2005):
 well all i can say is follow what you think is right! maybe you should talk to her about it and ask her what she thinks went wrong! alll i can say is follow destiny!!!!!!
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