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*amish
writes:I was in a year and a half long relationship with someone i absolutly love with all my heart. I inevitably drove her out of my life because i was scared of being hurt. she did'nt want to break up but i insisted i needed time to figure out what i wanted. I know know i want her back in my life and can see myself spending the rest of my life with this woman. problem being she has moved on and is about a month into a new relationship. I have told her how i feel and that i want her back but she is emotionaly unavailable im wanting to hang out with her on a freindship basis to show her how i have changed and hopefully regain her love but she has'nt been very receptive, she is willing to be around me if mutual friends are around but i feel that is'nt the best opertunity to show her the man i am now.. any advice is appreciated Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): She is with someone else and doesn't want her new boyfriend to think she is cheating by seeing you on your own, is my guess. I think she is right to concentrate on one person at a time, it says a lot about her.
You could wait and see how things turn out between her and the new boyfriend, but if she stays with him then you have to accept that she has moved on, and try to move on yourself.
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 first of if you show a woman that you are a wuss she will be more unattrative towards that. She doesn't like it when you tell her you changed show her you changed and if she is seeing other people let her dont' dread it you need to see other people she obviously moved on you show to and if it works out it will but dont' sit around thinking about what happened or where you go wrong just pick yourself up and move on. The best attraction is when a woman sees you picked yourself up without telling her and she loves it. Go workout,get a new car something but remember if it happened once it can happened again.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Hamish,
Sorry, but this doesn't bode well for you. I don't think she will leave her current boyfriend. She got tired of waiting for you, and now she has other ideas.
Don't try to be her friend, because you won't like it. Just move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Hamish,
I'm in the same situation sort of. My bf wants to split because he feels the need to date other girls (as I am his first girlfriend). I'm very hurt because I reaaallly realllly have strong feelings for him (i dont know if it's love) and wouldn't want him to date other girls. I'm afraid of him moving on. What you should do, start slow with her. Maybe shoot her an email and just talk to her. You could try having a dinner with your close friends with her but make sure you pay attention to her.
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