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writes:Dear Cupid. People always say you should try to respect your parents wishes and I think growing up I did a good job of doing that. I'm now my own woman, live out in the big city in my ow flat, going to unversity to get a degree and after giving it a lot of thought (about 6 months thought to be exact!), I've decided to get a tattoo. Nothing big. Just a little "aum" symbol hidden away somewhere. Thing is, my mum really doesnt want me to get it. I think she has a lot of misconceptions about what tattoos on women symbolise and even though I have tried to explain to her I'm not getting a skull and cross bones, she doesnt want to know. i've even tried to show her scale images of the aum symbol and show her small it is going to be, but she said she doesn't even want to look at it. On the other hand, my dad - who is now divorced from my mother, is all in favour of my tattoo plans. He has a tribal tattoo all the way down his back and has even offered to come with me to get the tattoo done and pay for it for me! I really want this tattoo because it symbolises a lot to me, but I'm worried about what my Mum thinks of it. I won't be able to keep it hidden forever. It will be visible when I wear a bikini in the summer and I can't go round always covering myself just because my mum doesnt like that I've got a tattoo. What should I do?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 Lol, dads don't mind as much as moms, my dad encouraged me to get a tattoo. Thought that would be fun to mention :)
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (16 February 2009):
I thought about getting a tattoo once, and I nearly did. I decided to give it some time: "I'll wait a year and give it serious thought, and if I still want it, I'll go for it."
I decided that I would rather have a navel ring instead.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (16 February 2009):
It's your decision whether or not to get a tattoo.
You're probably aware of this, but tattoos are permanent. You should wait for a considerable amount of time and contemplate how you feel about having a tattoo forever. If you're sure that you want one, then that's the choice you have to make.
Vamp gal is right, it wouldn't be a bad idea to talk to your mother. If you are age, then you can legally make your own decisions, but your mom has been around much longer, and there are reasons she feels the way she feels, even if you don't see eye to eye. A little perspective is always nice.
If you DO decide to get a tattoo, I would talk to a Dr. or nurse and ask them how to make sure that you get a safe one.
I would be very picky about the place where you get it done, for health reasons and for the fact that you want the artwork just right.
Here's an article about how to pick out a place:
http://www.soyouwanna.com/site/syws/tattoo/tattoo.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I know! Mothers are so set in their ways sometimes! I would get it anyway (you are old enough), and don't let your dad pay for it. Make this YOUR decision, and stand proudly by it. Just don't show her for awhile. Sometimes we have to do things that "buck the system," if you will, in order to feel alive, and independent. Been there, done that!
As long as you have thought it out well, (ie, it will be permanent), I say go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): Id be all like uh nah mum its my body im old enough to do what i want and if i want to get a tattoo ill get a damned tattoo, and if u dont like it ima kick u square in the nuts
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): Why don’t you get a henna tattoo, just till your mum gets use to the idea. I know it lasts 3-4 weeks. It’s not permanent and you won’t have regrets .Then once your mum comes round have a permanent one. That way everyone is happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): How old are you??? If you are of adult age, then maybe it's time you start making your own decisions. If your dad is willing to pay for it then she will probably blame him anyway!
If you are not of legal age, then wait a few years and then if you still want one you can get it!
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (15 February 2009):
 At the end of the day it's up to you, however, there are a lot of things you need to take in to account.
One thing is the feelings of your mum. She doesn't want you to have a tatoo, is there any specific reason for this?
Thing is with a tatoo, it's there for life, you can never get rid of it if you decide you don't like it, or it's not how you imagined, or something messes up, it's stuck that way.
Also putting that much ink on your skin can't be a good thing.
However, things like tatoos or piercings show who you are as a person.
You are now an indipendent woman and can make your own decisions and your mum has to realize that she can't control things in your life that she used to be able to control.
If you really want this tatoo, then maybe you should get it, however, don't hide it from your mum, otherwise when she finds out she may be more hurt that you didn't tell her than the fact that you actually got it done.
Talk this through with your mum and try to understand each others points of view, you may find that you change your mind about getting it, or she changes her mind...you just need to talk to each other, and then come to an agreement, if your mums opinion means so much to you, then this could help you.
Good Luck in what you decide to do!
Hope everything turns out OK.
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