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writes: i have been with my girlfriend for 12months now but i think i have a few problems.it all started 2 months ago. she said to me that all i wanted her was for sex but i enjoy having sex and i do feel like i always want to have sex with her. so she said that she would rather just cuddle and hug as we dont need to have sex all the time which is fine with me. but everytime we try and speak about sex it will end with us annoyed at each other.so instead i choose now not to talk about sex to her and give her what she wants which is to cuddle and hug. i've tried it her way for 4weeks and now that too seems to be a problem, i want to cuddle all the time. i think i may have a problem with paranoia as i feel there is always something she is not telling me and when i confront her about this she gets mad and upset and insits there is nothing. i asked her what she wants from me and does she loves me. i got a reply saying i want to be with you and i do love you is that too hard to understand. i have it drilled into my head that she does not want to be with me and that she has lost her love for me and now is using me for what i can do for her as i feel im getting nothing in return.she tells me that i tell her i love her too much and that i need to relax as there is nothing wrong. so we made a agreement that i will calm down and lay off abit not tell her i love her all the time and not want to cuddle her, all i asked for in return was for her not to give up on me but the reply i got was i'll try not too.recently she has been on her period so i can understand not wanting to have sex and but towards the end of her period she did play with me downstairs which was the first time in a while. what do i do ? am i being paranoid for no reason and is she right to say that i need to calm down and just relax. should i give her space and not constantly tell her that i love her and want to hug her all the timei feel now that im driving her away from me but i also feel as this is her way of getting out of our relationship slowly by making it apear that it is not working between us.what am i to do i never want to lose her as when everything is fine between us we have the best thing in the world which i have never had with past relationships. HELP ME!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): well just so u know we have sorted out our problems and are now even closer.
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reader, smartoldman +, writes (27 November 2005):
you have already shown her that having sex is more important to you than a true relationship with her. best say bye and let her move on.
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