A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm generally an easily bored person, and it's no different when it comes to relationships. I'm constantly wishing for my ideal man--someone who is engaging, funny, and charming among other traits. Maybe it's because I want a unrealistic fairytale relationship, or maybe it's because of my personality. I've always been described as funny, spontaneous, creative, witty, and like to joke around (although serious when I need to be). So I get bored easily (with anything). The ironic thing is that I want a long-term relationship with someone I can see myself having a future with. But I got bored of my past relationships quickly. My past relationships all lasted about half a year, with me getting annoyed of the guy for the last couple of months. Perhaps it's the chase and romance sweeping me off my feet? The guy usually wants to move faster than I do. I like taking things slow because I want to know if he's really right for me, and I'm usually hesitant to become official until we've dated for 3 months. This guy I'm seeing now is sweet, funny, and smart, although not as romantically engaging and charming as as my "dream guy" would be - but I suppose that's unrealistic. How can I stay in a relationship longer w/o getting bored? Should I let things flow as I did in the past, or should I wait for someone who completely captivates me? I went to school with my past lovers so we saw one another literally all the time, but my recent long distance relationship lasted quite a while (though eventually didn't work out due to distance). Perhaps I need someone who is not too close but not too far?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (7 April 2011):
Lower your standards - you want mr perfect and because someone doesnt exactly fit that bill, you get rid.
Stop looking to tick boxes of approval and just chill out as your blinding your own vision.
Take a bloke as you find them - you're right to take it slow and look at the whole package.
You'll know when you meet someone who's right for you.
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