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writes:How can I make a move to have a first kiss with my boyfriend without coming off as the controller in our relationship? We haven't kissed yet, and I know he wants to, but he's scared to try. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, suitcase  +, writes (22 October 2010):
"The girl I eventually DID marry doesn't know how much she should thank that first girlfriend of mine."
hahaha
dats funny
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reader, suitcase +, writes (22 October 2010):
@tasteofindia:hay you seem to have experience with kissing,
yeah i agree biting is not good for the first kiss
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reader, daletom +, writes (21 October 2010):
Is this the FIRST, first kiss, for both of you?
It's best if it happens naturally, when BOTH of you are ready. Before it actually happens, you'll probably be sending little signals to each other that you ARE ready - perhaps for a few hours, or maybe for a week or more.
"Let your eyes do the talking."? Yeah, that's about how it happened the first time I ever kissed a girl. I was walking her to the door after a date - she paused, turned toward me, and stood a little close - her head tilted up - her lips relaxed and slightly parted - and it happened! When we broke the kiss, she said, "See, that wasn't so hard!". (We had been kind of talking around the subject of kissing for a day or two, and it wasn't her FIRST, first kiss.)
Like "TasteofIndia" said, keep it simple and basic. Serious kissing is how most of us started learning to make love with our partners, "read" each other, and respond. It's not a bad thing if you spend a lot of time kissing, and learning from it - even for YEARS before you move on to more intimate sexual activity. Over the 6 months after my first-ever kiss, she taught me a LOT about kissing, making love, reading and responding to my partner - even though we never had sex, fondled each other, or saw each other naked. The girl I eventually DID marry doesn't know how much she should thank that first girlfriend of mine.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Hey sweet,
I would not recommend biting his lip just yet. If this is your first kiss, and his first kiss, start off simple. You might accidentally bite too hard or something... eventually you'll learn little tricks, but starting off with biting will be a little too intense for him I think. It's a hungry move.
Get yourselves alone, and like 'suitcase' says, your eyes will do the talking. Let your body language tell him that you're ready. Lean into him, tilt your head a little bit... if he doesn't go for it, you can help him out without being controlling. "I'd love if you kissed me". Good luck!
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reader, suitcase +, writes (21 October 2010):
get yourselves alone somewhere,,like movie or something,,,then it'll happen,,don't worry your eyes will do the talking lips willl do the touching,,,,good luck,,,,don't press too hard,,but don't forget to bite his lip a bit,,:)
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