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writes:Hey! This might not be the most unusual question, but help would be greatly appreciated! Alrighty, so I'm a freshman in Highschool, and I don't find any of the guys in my whole school..attractive. They're always screaming down the halls, throwing things, acting like monkeys, etc. Even the seniors! I must admit that I'm a more mature girl than most in my age group, but I still have fun and I am very popular within the freshman class. I've been asked on dates a lot, but I've refused each offer. I'm afraid that one day people will just stop asking! Now here's the weird part: I'm obsessed with boys from the 1930's and 40's. According to my grandparents, children were more or less well behaved, and were more serious. Some may disagree, but this comes from people who lived it. Now I'm not suggesting that I go crushing on 80-90 year old men who were boys in the 30's... ew!! I guess I'm just in love with the fact that there were mature guys at one time. It's bothering me that I keep looking for someone who has a 30's personality; I won't find it in a guy my age at this point. What can i do? *please no rude comments*
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): One word. Hormones.Sorry, but they mess with the male psyche for a long, long time. They get us ready to mate. Give us the insatiable, almost unrelenting desire to have sex with anything that moves and has boobs.Give them a break, their bodies are changing drastically in a very short space of time, the biggest change that has happened since they made the 9 month journey from a cell to a living and breathing human.Your hormones do something a little different. They are changing your body and getting it ready to conceieve children. To mate, though desire will always be arguably less than that of a man or boy in heat.These boys are not evil. They are just being teenagers. And if you think teens were any different in the 30's and 40's... well, this was a time of war on a global scale never before seen in all the history of the world. And in case you didn't notice, most of the men were away shooting Nazis and the Japanese at the time, if you want to talk about immature.The teenagers you see have never known true adversity the way our ancestors did. And this is a GOOD thing. This is what they fought and often died for, the freedom from that crap. So you just thank your lucky stars it isn't the 1500's and such 'immature idiots' are not being sent off to fight wars before they are even old enough to drink and have sex.
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Hey,I am in a similar situation, the girls that are in my school are all immature girls who like to go partying and do stupid stuff(drugs etc.) My girlfriend, does not do the stupid stuff, but she hangs around with those people and i fear it will rub off on her, which would taint this hardcore.. My girlfriend is very independent, whilst i am co-dependent, and i am looking for a serious relationship, but she is kinda half and half - as it feels.... I am the type of guy who dresses nice and clean, i have a faux hawk, i look a little bit like taylor laughtner and robert patterson, i am respectable person.. but let me tell you something... i am 17 years old - and like 90% of the guys my age are EXACTLY like the guys you are talking about...I am looking for a girl who is mature and actually wants to spend time with me all the time (my girlfriend blows me off on weekends to do homework that should take her 2 hours - which takes her 12 haha) and she treats me like crap (won't share her feelings, never puts in the effort to see me or talk to me really)... In all honesty, a guy like me is just waiting for a mature girl like you to come along... I AM SURE that there is a guy in your school that is just like you and wants a serious and mature relationship... you just have to find him, even if he is not that attractive, let me lay it out for you..Options (based on most guys my age):Attractive guy - HUGE douche bag who likes to party and hookup with random girls.Less attractive guy, but still cute - a nice, sweet person who is outgoing. When you see the "hot" guys, i would talk to them, but if they come off as anything like i said, its most likely true. But when you meet a guy that you were talking about, you will know. Even if you date a bunch of losers, eventually you will find that one guy that is just like you in terms of personality, compassion, and maturity.hope i helped!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 April 2011):
They'll be waiting for you in a few more years. They really will. Teenage boys have never been that great when it comes to maturity. Whatever people have said about the 30's, there were plenty of young men who weren't gentlemen then either. You won't find a mature guy yet, but you will in a few more years, and because you're fairly mature yourself, you'll have your pick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): There can't be a TOTAL lack of guys who act calm in your school. Maybe all the attractive guys act up, maybe all the guys that ask you out are acting up, maybe all the guys in your friend group that you consider BF material act up . . . but that is still not all the guys in your school. You just need to start looking at the others.
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