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writes:Basically, I want a boy-friend.But I'm finding this absolutly impossible to do, for three reasons.1. No boy seems to like me, none! I've had one boy crush on me, in primary school.It makes me feel horrible that no-one seems to like me, and the more it becomes apparant that no-one likes me, the more I feel as though something is wrong with me, and then I feel self-consious, and would never dream of asking a boy out, for the fear that he would say no, and then everyone would find out.2. I have a mad obbsesion with a fictional character. Sherlock Holmes. It's annoyingly frustrating, because I feel like such an idiot for having a crush on someone who isn't even real.3. The majority of boys that I have met are total ass-holes, and I don't really like anyone.And before anyone says that because I don't like anyone it means I'm not ready for a boy-friend, I'm pretty well sure I am ready.I just feel depressed that all of my friends have been out with another guy at least once. And then there's me, like the old crone who has no-one.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 November 2012):
 Oh sweet thing such a hard age.
Of course you want a boyfriend….
1. NO boy seems to like me. well I’m betting that there are boys that like you but you don’t like them so you don’t notice (that’s always the way it works)
IF you are feeling that NO ONE likes you, the possibility exists that you don’t like yourself much. (that’s really common btw so don’t’ feel abnormal) IF you are afraid to ask a boy out because he might say no, don’t you think the boys feel the same way? (They do)
2. You have a mad obsession with Sherlock Holmes. How cool. I had a mad crush on Thomas Jefferson for years…. He died long before I was born…. He might as well be fictional. (how geeky is it to have a crush on a DEAD PRESIDENT after all)
3. None of the boys you know are worthy of you (typical and normal as well)
Just because you have not met anyone does not mean you don’t’ want it. As for being ready… maybe you are maybe you aren’t…. I hate to tell you but at 16/17 you are so far from an old crone it’s not funny. In fact, that comment alone is laughable dear. It doesn’t mean your pain is any less… just that when you get a few years under your belt you will look back and laugh at yourself. You can’t see it now but it’s true.
So tell me now that you made these statements what do you want us to help you do? Find a boyfriend? Or learn to live with your depression?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): Hi there! guess what? your funny. why? your agony is so shallow. how old are you? 12? 14? Ok forgive me. I was once your age, and i could totally relate, however i was lucky because my first love became my bf. We were both too young. his 15 and i was 16. My dad would always interfere, we can't go out alone. I'm not allowed to talk to him alone. Until one day, i have to leave high school and moved, start college. after that we grew apart and haven't spoken since.I thank my parents for being strict, if not maybe i wont get a degree and end up worst or something.So, my suggestion for you is just take your time. Love comes in a most unexpected ways. Don't compare your self to your friends. You may not have a bf at this time but that's fine. Your still young and the world still goes round and round. At least you don't have to worry about bf/gf drama things, abortion, jealousy, third party issues. Its so stressful. You cant hurry love, no you just have to wait, love don't come easy its a game of give and take.. Take it from Phil Collins... Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): Wow you sound so much like I did when I was 16/17. None of the guys at my school ever liked me and to be honest I wasnt too keen in them either. I could never work out why, even to this day actually, because I got on ok with some of them as friends but nothing more. I too thought there must be better out there, but I was worried that if these 'rubbish' boys in my school didn't like me that I had no chance with the 'good' ones I imagined were out there. Then I turned 18, went to uni and got a part time job and everything changed! I met a whole load of new people and not only found guys who liked me, there were some that I liked back! I think as soon as you start broadening your horizons you will meet lots of different kinds of guys and you will find your problem is solved. I think you should be patient too, I know it's sometimes rubbish being single but it really is better than being with someone who's not worth it. Oh and as for your crush, I really wouldn't worry about that at all. The fact he isn't real just means you like the qualities of the character (ie intelligence) and there is nothing wrong with that.
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