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writes:I want a baby but i do want to get marryed first but i see babys evey where i got and i almost cry when i see them i just want a baby so bad it hurts to not have one plz help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 February 2016):
 It is perfectly okay to have these feelings. It just means that you are maternal. Would it be practical to have a baby at the moment? No it wouldn't. You are not married, and you are still young.
When we see babies they are cute and adorable but in reality they are hard work.
A baby wakes every couple of hours to be fed. This is exhausting for a new mother. They also need their nappies to be changed, lots of cuddles. You need to make sure they are warm and dry. It is hard work having sleepless nights every night. Also you would need to be financially secure so that you could buy everything that you need, babies are expensive. You can say goodbye to your social life because you would be to exhausted to do anything let alone go for a shower and get ready to go out. Your life is about that baby growing in to a toddler, helping them to learn the ways of life. Then in to school, then teenage life. Then after that you may get your own freedom back.
Just enjoy your life at the moment, when you have found the right man to settle down with and get married to then you can think about children when you have support and help. These feelings will pass. If they don't volunteer to work with children and babysit.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 February 2016):
 I suspect that you see babies everywhere but you do not live with babies,or spend regular time with babaies, or take care of babies.
Then , it's a bit like all those people aching for a puppy. They only see the cute, sweet and adorable in it, and they crave for one. Then , when they bring home their lovely new toy poodle, they realize how much time and patience and effort it takes to take care of one, how many sacrifices and changes in your habits and lifestyle it requires , how annoying and disobedient a puppy can be etc...
For some people , it's worth it, and they will take on the extra work and the committment gladly- but with a Whole, different, informed objective knowledge of what being a puppy owner entails.
Other people are shocked, surprised and overwhelmed,- and poor Puppy ends up neglected, re-homed, or at the dog pond.
It's easy to be bay hungry when you do not have the responsibility of one.
Try seeking a job in a creche . Or volunteer to take total care of some relative's or friend's baby for a week- : including sleepless nights , changing nappies ,never going out with your single friends- everything.
That may affect you in two ways according tastes and personality.
Either will cure you instantly of your baby fever .
Or, it will reinforce your love and tenderness for babies, BUT will show you and convince you how a baby would fit much,much better in your life at later time, when you'll be older, have a husband, your own place to live, the money to bring up babies, no regret for the freedom of your teen years.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2016): You seem to love babies. With that in mind you have got to think of your future child first. If you are married and in a strong stable relationship before having a baby that child's life will be a lot better with two parents there to support it. If you have sex now just to get pregnant you're going to hurt your future child by either 1. Making that child have no father. Or 2. Missing out on half that child's life because of joint custody. Just think or the future of the baby you seem to love and want so much. What's in that baby's best interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2016): I feel like you need to sit yourself down and really think if this will be the best decision for you right now. Financially and mentally as well as physically. You should think about adoption. I am cristian so i think sex before marriage is not very wise. Hope this helps dear. Bye bye now.
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