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writes:It breaks my heart to see all these young women on here pregnant and scared when there are people out there that want babies so bad and can't have them.I've been married for 5 years and we can't have kids. The adoption agency we spoke to said that it costs around 15,000-20,000 dollars for an adoption. We just don't have that up front. For those of you who are pregnant and considering adoption, or those who have put their baby up for adoption, would you purposely not choose a family if they didn't have 15-20 thousand stored away? It's not that we can't afford a child, we have a 4 bedroom home for just us and we pay our bills and everything, its just because we are so young, we don't have a huge nest egg stored away.I will graduate in December and my husband makes enough money to support us both so I don't have to work, but I feel like we will never get lucky enough to adopt.
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reader, comeonjesusthishurtstoomuch +, writes (27 December 2010):
 have you tried your local children available that have been pulled from bad situations lots of babies and toddlers who got a bad start with abusive or drug addict parents who lost them and never wanted to go through what it took to get them back department of social services should know exactly what guidelines and you don't have to pay for them just love them let me know he i helped
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Have you considered taking a loan in the bank? Or borrowing money from friends and family? If you work even though your husband earns a lot you will surely be better suited for a loan from the bank, or be better suited to repay your families if they will borrow you money. At least then you can save up more so that one day you will have enough to afford adoption. Do not think it will be too late, in 10 years time you will still be a perfect candidate for a mother, I know women who are 40 who's having small children, and it's not a problem at all. And even so when you adopt there are so many children who are not babies, but perhaps 2-5 years of age who need parents!
Work. Don't just sit at home because your husband can support the both of you, that is my advice. Work, earn the money, then go through with adopting. Don't pity yourself and give up. Work for it and it will come. It's far from over yet.
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