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writes:i think i have a problem but i dont really no.me and my boyfreind have been together for almost a year and a half, i want to be with him for the rest of my life, he has changed my life so much for the better.heres the problem, before i met him i went out drinking etc every friday and saturday night, i like to be in clubs and i like to dance, its a good way to be out with freinds and have some fun.when i got with my boyfriend i never thought it would turn out to be as serious as it has gotten, hes muslim so i have always nown i would have to convert, the more that i researched it the more i loved the idea.when i am with him, when i am work or anywhere i soooo want that to be my life, when i am alone doubts creep in about what i am leavin behind.im not sure if it is just because all my friends have gone to uni or left that i feel lonely, and have no muslims friends as of yet to socialise with.i dont no what to think, i love him, but if i go back to drinking pubs and clubs that will be the definate end. help...... does anyone have any advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): i think you should get married. you say u love him.if u keep going to clubs and partying, yeah? so? till when are you going to keep doing that? u should feel lucky to have found the person u love and u can finally start a family with him. i dont think u will regret any of it. but then again its ur choice, u can either marry him or go back to ur life of partying and drinking every weekend.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 I personally would suffocate in a muslim marriage. But if you truly have studied it and know how they view women and can accept it then fine for you. However it sounds from your post that you have some doubts. There should be no doubts whatsoever before marriage. I'd just keep dating him and see if it really is your cup of tea.
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reader, amber2328 +, writes (12 February 2008):
 You are young and have a lot to experience. The fact that you are having doubts already is probably a sign that you are not ready. I know that you are in love but marrige is a huge step and if you are not sure then maybe you need to re-think it.
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