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writes: My boyfriend and I are very close.I used to get on with his family, but now they no longer invite me around. I was even excluded from his birthday celebration, even though the year before they had invited me.I have confronted him about it, told him how upset I am about it, but he doesnt seem to bring it up with them or show much concern.I feel like I've been rejected by them. I've made the effort a couple of times, but am really offended that they dont invite me for family things.My family, on the other hand, invite my boyfriend for everything!What do I do? If I cant get along his folks, this isnt going to work? Its really hurtful how they are treating me, but im not invited round to ask them about it, and hes not enquiring with them. I'm fed up of this treatment! Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (23 September 2006):
 You need to tell your boyfriend about your future fears regarding this matter, he really needs to see how this thing with his family is effecting you, surely his family must be able to see how much you both love each other and just want him to be happy and respect that, that is with you.
I would ask him that if he doesn't know why his family hate you then for him to find out as this could just be a misunderstanding that maybe easily sorted.
Hope everything works out for you, remember you are with your boyfriend and not his family so if they can't accept you together then it is their problem not yours as you are trying.
Good luck :o)
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reader, smileyhugs +, writes (22 September 2006):
smileyhugs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand what you are saying. Thanks for the advice. The problem is this is a serious relationship. We are also both from very close families. He has a bro, but I cant talk to him, cos i'm not allowed round there!
If his parents dont like me, this is gonna have major rammifications for my relationship with him.. I will always be excluded.
I hope to move in with him one day, but if his parents cant stand me.. will i be able to go round there?will they ever come round our place if i am there?
Also, he will naturally want to spend a fair bit of time with them, and I will always be left out, not part of the family.. rejected.
Its really upsetting me and damaging our relationship.
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reader, SassySarah +, writes (22 September 2006):
I cant see how you seem to think its not going to work out if they are being rude towards you,
Your going out with your boyfriend not his parents.
If its bugging you that much then tell him to take you round im sure he dont need an invite! If he refuses then tell him you intend to go round there on your own.
If you cant face that then has he got any sisters or brothers you can talk to ?
good luck
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