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writes: How can I stop masterbating to the images/thoughts of my ex? We broke up for a reason. But somehow I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I need to totally get over him. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): I masterbate to thought of my ex, The Only Woman I Have Ever Fallen In Love With And Remain In Love With." She is the only one who I will ever allow to take full control of my body. My body is sacred and she is the only one who I trust with it. ~Dear Soul~
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Unless it is extremely bothering you, you should be happy that you have something that will help you get off. I used to feel weird about envisioning other men during masturbation, but now I find it kind of fun. You get to relive hot sexual moments with past partners or pretend a hot model or actor (whom you know you'll probably never get with) is pleasing you. If you need a new face, try watching porn like Aunt Honesty suggests. You'll find a few new faces there!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 Personally, I like to fantasize about Jared Leto..so I suggest the hot lead singer of your favorite band, or Justin Timberlake, who didn't love N*Sync? Basically, someone is much better looking than your ex.
There's no secret tip or guide on how to get over a guy..Just get rid of everything in your pace that reminds you of him, take up kickboxing or whatever sport you enjoy to pound out your frustration or maybe knitting because it's therapeutic..surround yourself with friends maybe engage in casual dating finding a new guy to replace him. Mainly keep yourself busy, filling those empty time slots.
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reader, katrine +, writes (9 November 2010):
What was the reason you broke up ?
perhaps you should have tried to work it out with him.
if your with somebody new and he is still on your mind
you need to analyze your feelings, sometimes the body knows things the conscious doesn't.
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reader, Franny Girl  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 Hey,
If i were you, i reallr totally would not worry, what goes on in your head during masterbation, no one will find out! no one can read your thougts to just dont worry. When you have your next partner and u once again become fully sexualy comitted to that guy, you will no longer think of ur ex while u masterbate.
I hope i helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): Nothing wrong with this unless you have traumatic issues with him. Lots of people do this, even years later, because they have those images and feelings in memory and they are real and are easier to use than completely "made up" fantasies.
Getting another guy is the best way, then you will have a relationship that is real and fantasy can fall to secondary status (hopefully).
You don't say how long ago you broke up, but if this is only a short time I'd not worry about it. If it has been 12 years, and you have had no relationship since, well...that would be a problem.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 Hi well you probably use him as your mental image because he is the last sexual partner you had am guessing, im not really sure how you can stop using his image, maybe try think of someone famous who you like the look of, or watch porn.
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