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writes: dear cupids. well im chelsea, and i know ya gunna think im a slag whilst reading this but i am just after advice not a lecture.i was 15 in march and my boyfriend is 17 in july we have been together for nearli two years and we have a georgous little baby girl named jessica-mai she is 7 months old, we are living in a flat that is joined onto my boyfriends house and we are paying for everything out selves and doing everything our selves. he is working and it on quite a good wage for a 17 year old and i am starting college in september as i havnt been to school since i was 6 month pregnant. we are reali settled in and we are very happy with the way things are but i have just found out i am pregnant again. i have not yet told my boyfriend as i only found out at the beging of last week. i am not sure what to do, i dont knopw wether to get rid of the baby and not tell anyone about it or wether to keep it because it is not fair getting rid of it. my mum (i dont have a dad, he died in an accident) and my boyfriends parents where ok with my last pregnancy but i am unsure about this one. twice is pushing it a bit. anyone any advice on what i should do. my boyfriend does feed, cloth, look after jessica-mai and i am sure he would do the same to this baby but i dont know whether i will be able to handle it. we are ok as we are?? anyone any offers. thankyou for reading and sorry for the essey x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): Wow! I think you should have the baby and give him/her to a family that wants a baby. I also believe you should give Jessica to a "FAMILY" that wants her. You are a baby, not a woman. Keep your legs closed, until you're old enough to take responsibility for your actions!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): hi please email me i would like to chat with you if you dont mind my email is [email address blocked]
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reader, rachal  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 i don't think that you should get an abortion because that is tecniquly KILLING the baby. at least consider telling them that you are pregnant, but are going to put it up for adoption. i mean you were the one having sex, not your baby. dont make it suffer. good luck.:)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I very much agree with DrPsych. Two is an awful lot of kids at fifteen. If you decide to terminate, that is a totally okay choice, but you should do it sooner than later. I wouldn't keep your boyfriend in the dark about this, but that is ultimately your choice.
I do think you should go to Planned Parenthood or a doctor and get on a valid form of birth control. Perhaps the shot, so that you don't have to remember to do anything (as opposed to remembering to take a pill everyday).
Keep in mind, it's great that you both are settled right now... but another baby is going to be VERY time consuming (not to mention costly), and college will be difficult to get through with two newborns at home.
If you decide to keep it, I'd sit down and make out financial plans and the whole nine yards. If you are having a second child, you should be very, VERY prepared so you don't get too overwhelmed.
Good luck, sweetness. It sounds like you're a great Mother, and it's nice to know that your boyfriend is sticking around and being a good father to Jessica.
xxIndia
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I don't think you are a slag but I do think you are lousy control of your contraception. It is good that you are both fairly self-sufficient but you need to get support whether you decide to keep the baby or not. I think you ought to tell him - secrets have a nasty habit of creeping up on you. If you decide on a termination you need to see your GP quickly about this. I personally think having a family of 2 is a huge commitment at 15 and it is entirely your decision (and your partners) on whether to keep this child or not. However, whatever you decide you really need to fix your contraception now or else you could end up with a small tribe by the time you are in your 20's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): hay girl sounds like u have a little dilema there! well i dont think u should not tell him and get rid of it as if he finds out hell be pritty angry i think no matter what u should tell him that ur preg and how ur feeling as he will suport u thought this time weather or not u decide to have the child, but i feel it is important to tell him as ive done it myself and not told the guy i was with and he was so angry he left me and hated me for a long time and i wouldnt wish that on u babes so tell him... xxxx gud luck hunni xxx
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