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writes: I'm at odds with my wife. I tell her my problems but she dismisses them. She says she will change things and sometimes promises to. She doesn't keep those promises and when I get upset about it, she refuses to take responsibility or apologize. I try to make her happy but she doesn't seem to do the same for me. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): welcome to the club. women never seem to see the need to apologize. I believe it's congenital.
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reader, mellissa333 +, writes (10 January 2007):
 by "happy" do you mean in the bedroom?
or just in general
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 You don't really go into enough detail, but maybe you need to talk to her calmly and rationally. Sometimes people take out other stresses on the people they care about the most, it could be that she has a lot on her plate, you don't say if you have kids or whether you both work. Try and make some special time for the 2 of you, take her out for the evening spend quality time together. and talk to her about how she's feeling. Talk to each other. Get her to open up about whats on her mind, ask her why she has little respect for you and why she doesn't take your feelings into account. The only way your going to find out about whats going on in her mind is to talk to her.
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (9 January 2007):
 I take it you have told your wife what you have just told us? Tell her that she makes you feel like she is dismissing your problems, that you would be happy to support her and in return you would like a little support too.
The best way to sort out any problem is by comunicating, if you feel that she doesnt comunicate then tell her, but it needs to be in such a way that doesnt get her defenses up.
Maybe you should cook her a meal have a romantic night in and see if you can broach these issues when both of you are relaxed and recepive to each other,
Good luck xx
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