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writes: I get very jealous when my girlfirend goes out with my friends. I am 2 sets of friends and when I'm with one and my girlfriend is on a night out with the others, involving many males, who I know may/have made a move on her. I get really angry. I trust her completely though. My jealousy is putting a strain on the relationship but I love her very much, and she loves me. How can I stop being jealous? I'm a fairly shy person and often take problmes out on people who are really close to me as they are easier to talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): if yu trust her, trust that she will tell the truth. if you have friends who would make advances toward your girlfriend, you don't have very good friends.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (30 December 2005):
 Firstly it takes two to tango, i'm sure you have heard that line before. If your friends were hitting on her and something did have to happen, she would be just as guilty.
But if you love each other as much as you say you do then there is nothing to worry about. Infact you should feel safer knowing that she is trustworthy hands and that your friends are most likely just looking after her.
My boyfriend is in Asia at the moment and i go out with his friends and not one of them has tried to pick me up infact they look after me because they know my boyfriend has trusted them to look out for me!
There is nothing wrong with Jealousy, it just shows that you care!
But don't think the worst of your friends, they may just be trying to help you out by keeping an eye on your girlfriend when you can't! Stay positive!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (30 December 2005):
 I honestly dont feel it is respectful for your girlfriend to be out with your friends. Doesnt she have her own friends? Besides, how would she feel if you were going out with her friends? I dont know what is being said and/or done to make you feel this jealousy. Trust is very important if you are going to make this relationship work. Why would you want to have friends that you do not trust? Are you jealous only when she is out with your friends? Or are you just jealous of her period? The only way this relationship is going to work is to concentrate on the fact that she loves you, and you trust her, and to treat each other with respect. Jealousy is a negative emotion that can destroy a relationship. It will make her miserable, and in the end you will push her away with your accusations. A little jealousy is normal and human nature. You cannot turn off your emotions, but you do realize it is putting a strain on the relationship. If you feel secure with yourself and your relationship, focus on that and keep a positive attitude.
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