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anonymous
writes:This'll sound like an overreaction from every angle, but my b/f has a lot of female friends. He is also close friends with his ex, which I find rather intimidating. His ex lives in the US (he and I are in UK), so I know I shouldn't be threatened... but I am! I trust him, but a few of his female friends are total flirts, and one has even talked to him about "giving him head", and calls him "babe" even though this woman is married.I trust him implicitly: I know he's 100% committed to me, it's just his female friends that I don't trust.I know that I'm being totally ridiculous and insecure about this - but how do I deal with these feelings? Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): if you trust him completely thats all that matters because if a girl through herself at him you have to trust him to say no and if you do well then everythings fine.. please dont let this effect you..i've seen so many relationships end through needless suspicion and in the end it's the suspicion that breaks the relationship apart which is what you was trying to avoid doing xx
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Yes, you are over-reacting. And yes you are over-reacting from every angle, ridiculously, insecurely... and it's OK. Be jealous, and tell him you are jealous of all these female friends of his, but don't ever get yourself worked up over it or argue with him about it.
So, how do you deal with feelings that threaten to cause you a problem? Take a good look at him, and ask yourself why he is with you right now? Why isn't he with his ex, or one of those other women? Got it? Oh yes. He's with you because he loves you, and no ex or flirt is going to take him away however hard they try, are they? The chances are that they're not trying anyway, and it's all no more than a bit of fun. But if he's attractive enough and fun-loving enough for them to want to do it, and in love with you enough to want you not them, then you have something very special.
Now.... about that "giving head" one of them joked she was going to do... can't you just do SO much better.....
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