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writes:There was this guy that love me so much that it made me kinda hate him so used to do a lot of hateful things to him so he would suffer because I knew he would keep coming back for more no matter what. He finally left me and I can't forgive myself because I been stalking him for two years and I learned a lot about him that I didn't learn when he was all in love and smitten for me because I was to busy treating him like he was a weirdo creep. Im angry at him when I shouldnt be because I made him hate me because I made him suffer only because he worshipped me. I love him the way he loved me but he hasnt come back like he used to. Its been months and not a peep from him. His cousin said he love me but if he love me how did he go for months and not come crawling back to me? I dont deserve him so I should show him how I really do love him. Im desperate to prove to him how sorry I am and how I really do love him. Im going to do something ive never done in my life. im going to beg him to be my byfr. I cant take this anymore. I need him. do you think he will want me and be the same way about me when I was being a stupid idiot.
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reader, Odds +, writes (29 May 2011):
 He's gone. The best you can hope for is to learn something from this. Girls want to be loved, but they don't want to be loved significantly more than they love the guy back. That kind of unrequited devotion inspires contempt. Would it be accurate to say that most of the guys you liked in your life did not treat you with respect, or at least did not like you as much in return?If you're so inclined, you can try to make up for the karma. Tell your story to guy friends who are making the same mistake he was. Help them to avoid girls who do that, or to act in ways that will actually attract the girls they like. This goes double for any guy who likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): I don't think you love him at all. If you did you'd have snapped up the chance to be with him.
What you're missing is the attention and now that he's finally seen sense and stopped giving you any, you can't stand it. I think you should just leave him alone.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 May 2011):
 You tortured him because he loved you??? If you didn't love him back at first, why didn't you just let him down easily? Why did you have to do hateful things to him?AngelD made a good point. I don't think you had a change of heart. I think you want what you can't have, and now there's something attractive about him.I'm sorry, but the fact still remains that you were cruel to someone who never did you any harm, and you didn't have to be. A simple "I'm not looking for a relationship" could have been a lot kinder.And that's the heart of it. Is your nature a cruel one? Do you derive pleasure from being mean to others? Someone with empathy cannot be hateful to someone who loves them. Sorry, but you don't deserve him after what you did. What you do need is some help. No amount of pleasure should be had from being mean and hateful to others.Bottom line - until you jettison that cruel nature and become kind and caring, you should be alone.
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reader, lysha  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 you need to tell him just how sorry you are, you dont know what you've got till you lose it, even though you weren't together this still counts, he loves you right? so in the end he respected your wishes and has left you alone like you wanted for the sheer fact he doesnt want you to hate him anymore than he thinks you do if that makes sense?ask him to meet up because you need a chat, go for a meal, even offer to pay, explain everthing then ask him if he still feels the same way about you and if he would like to make a go at the relationship :)
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (29 May 2011):
 leave him alone, he has got wise to you and is no longer blinded by love and thinking he can change / help you. i know you are sad now (maybe this is because you cannot have what you want, rather than genuine regret for the way you treated him) so take real notice of your feelings and let this be a lesson to you that you can use when you get your next relationship.
maybe you have deep rooted issues that have caused you to behave the way you did, if you have then i feel sorry fro you and hope you get help to move on and feel happy and emotionally healthy
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reader, hope_i_could_help  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 Well, for me, if he really loves you he will want you back..And it is also a good thing that you realized your mistakes. I think you should apologize for what you did to him and explain everything why you did that. Tell him how you love him and miss him everyday. I agree that you became stupid at that time but don't blame yourself, past is past, you should forget it. Your lucky because you can do something right now like apologizing to him and not being too late to do that. You should be happy that despite of all the bad things you did to him he still loves you. I hope and I pray that it will work out for the both of you. God bless and good luck and I hope my advice and suggestions helped.
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