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writes:Hi, It's me. You know, my husband cheated a 2nd time. Well I went with my heart and took him back. I know that it's crazy but that's where my heart is and I know that I have to live with that decision. We have agreed to go to see a counselor and also we have agreed to have the baby that we really want. If it doesn't work then that's what god wants, but I will have my third child that I want. Thanks for helping me in my broken times, but I really want this marriage to work. If he feels that he wants to leave again then so be it. It wasn't meant to be. I've tried more than once and it'll never work with only one of us trying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): in life we all have choices, you made yours to stay with your hubby and work things through. i am hoping that this marriage works out for you both. i am concerned at you wanting another baby so soon, in time maybe as your relationship strenghtens. your marriage is still so shaky why complicate it with another baby now. you still have to work at the fragile state of the marriage. i have a suggestion - wait a while, work on your marriage, see whether your husband is 200% dedicated to your current kids and your marriage, then decide on baby # 3. you have nothing to loose. imagine if he goes back to his old cheating ways with you pregnant, how will you fend for yourself and your 2 kids. are you being fair in wanting another child right now. i wish you all the love, happiness in the world. but please choose carefully, and know that your actions will have consequences. are you willing to face those consequences if your husband reverts to his old ways?
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reader, 48years  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 Don't give up on your marriage. Especially if you're absolutely set on having another child, in a situation that most would prefer not to add a child to. Let's hope God changes your husband, after all, He can fix anything, and He's the only one who can save your marriage.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (26 March 2009):
 You can't have a passive attitude. Having a passive attitude shows that you are OK with him leaving, and you really are NOT! You want this marriage to work out or else you would not be back to him after he cheated 2 times. What you need to do is place a foot down... show some power... show some ferocity!!
Your post shows that you want him in your life, so stop acting like you'd be OK if he cheated a 3rd time! You're not, and it wouldn't be God's will if he did. I really hope that marriage council works for you two!
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