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writes:im 19 years old and have a bf whos older then me he is 31, ive told my mom as i thought i could tell her, but she keeps saying she is going to tell my step dad but i know he will leave if she does what should i do as i really like this guy and i know he likes me too? Reply to this Question
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reader, Variety +, writes (3 June 2007):
 I'm not sure I understand - what would telling your stepdad do? Legally you are an adult and are able to make your own decisions. I think she is shocked - to her you a still her little girl and it is a big age difference. But if you love him that should not matter. Maybe you could try and have another talk with your Mum, and possibly introduce her to your boyfriend (do this on neutral territory like a restaurant where she won't want to make a scene if things don't go well).
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reader, laurie-loo +, writes (30 May 2007):
 maybe your mum is just saying shes going to tell your stepdad to scare you into leaving your older man? if you really think it will cause problems and make him leave why would your mum do that? even though your 19 she will probably still see you as her little girl. you need to be firm with your mum though, explane your not a child anymore and its up to you to make your own descicions. your mum just doesnt want you getting involved with older men as she probably still sees you as a child and couldent bear you being hurt. i say go for it, yes it may upset your mum at first but you cant let her live your life for you. maybe you could take him around to meet your mum, im sure if hes a lovely genuine guy she will star coming to terms with things and once she gets to know him changing her mind. xxxx
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 It's none of their business. You're 19, and a legally consenting adult. There's nothing that they can do.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (29 May 2007):
 You are 19 and old enough to make your own decisions. If you and this guy are serious about each other then there is nothing they can do to stop you.
Why would your step dad leave when he finds out...??
Here if u need to talk to me :)
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reader, pinkpunkette +, writes (29 May 2007):
 if you love him your mum would accept that and respect your privicy you need to tell her just how much you love this guy, your an adult if uve made a mistake then thats a mistake YOU and you alone will come through your old enough to make your own decisions if you think it could be going somewere between the both of you then dont let anything stand in the way your mum will always love you no matter what she does or says, let her know at the end of the day if anyone does end up getting hurt it will be you so she dusnt have to worry, tell her how you confided in her because you though you can trust her and you love her but you also love your boyfriend and if she loved someone older you wouldnt stand in her way , to be honest... how does age define love? your just a girl who met a guy and fell inlove he deserves a chance to make you happy and if your happy your mom should be happy too let her know were you stand , hope i helped, keep me posted send me a message if you want to chat =] good luck x
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