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writes:My boyfriend and I are in a long distant relationship (2hrs drive) but still make every effort to see each other every weekend. Since now our relationship has become more serious, not seeing him for a week drives us crazy. We are looking into moving in together. We both are living with our parents right now. We have decided that we will get a place in the town close to the city I’m living right now. Because I’m living in a big city with all the traffic jam in the morning, it’ll probably take me at least 1hr 30 minutes to go to work, and will take him similar amount of time for him to get to work. I haven’t told my parents I’m planning to do this yet. The thing is it’s currently taking me 15 minutes to work from home. Moving away from home might seem like a dumb thing for my parents. My boyfriend’s business is located where he’s living right now. We both respect each other that we have our own career. Will this long drive everyday to work make us bitter about living together in the future? Reply to this Question
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reader, Paula4u  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Use the time apart for maybe talking on the phone, the little things you forget, little lovenotes etc. Time apart can be good too. Listen to music perhaps share CD's swap them in each others car, if you miss him, use his aftershave etc as air freshner, and perhaps he would like something.. Many couples spend 2 hours on the road, to get to work, why should it make them feel bitter? So no, its pretty normal. Good Luck!
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 It shouldn't get in the way at all. With all of the good things, like cuddling and making love to go home to, don't the good parts outweigh one bad thing?
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reader, stina +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Hi Yuna
Everyone is different when it comes to certain situations, and I think that this is one of those situations. Maybe you two can find a short term lease avilable for an apartment that way you're not stuck living there if things start to go sour. Month-to-month rent would be ideal.
My husband actually works an hour and a half away from where we live. I only work about 20 mins away from my office. He isn't bitter and it gives me time to cook so we can just relax when he gets in (I love to cook and my husband is a feminist just so nobody gets any ideas! lol) So it works out for the both of us.
So try it out and see how it works. You'll never know unless you give things a shot.
Take care.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 May 2007):
 I hope you factor the cost of gasoline into your plans.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (29 May 2007):
 I dont think it should unless you feel a certain uncormfortableness (if thats a word) about it now. My ex had to drive roughly the same a few days a week when she wanted to see me and it was never a problem. Its all in the name of love at the end of the day.
You just have to remember why you doing these things your doing and make sure the time you spend together is used wisely.
It will only become a problem when you make it a problem with each other; i.e. not spending your time togther wisely and therefore wasting the time you have together and starting to resent the sacrifices made.
It should be a small price to pay to be with the person you love and cherish so make it that, and worry about the larger problems if and when they arise.
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