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writes:Hi,I broke up with a guy on Sunday after 8 months. It's the usual story, he was overly keen to begin with, texting, calling and constantly knocking on my door (we live in separate flats in the same house) After 7 months we slept together and as soon as that happened he just stopped everything. I had to text, call and go and see him. I felt like I was chasing after him. He contradicted himself, saying one thing, then changing it. For example he talked about committing to me and getting married and a week later said that I was pressuring him - just because I wanted to spend some quiet time with him! He has problems from his past and spends most of his time playing Xbox. He works two hours every day (walking a dog) and said that having sex with me every day and working for two hours was too much for him! Two days after we finished he's chasing after an 18 year old girl (he's 31). Since I've known him he has fallen out with everyone else in the house and now me. I told him that he needs to reflect on himself like we all do and be honest, he says there is nothing wrong with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2015): I didn't know how to reply so I had to write on here. Thank you everyone, I just needed to hear it.x
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 December 2015):
 Ok, so he says there is nothing wrong with him. No one around him agrees with him.
He's unlikely to engage in any self reflection any time soon and since he's history it really isn't your problem anymore, is it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 December 2015):
 And what do you need us to help you with?
are you wondering why he's the way he is?
we have no clue]
or are you wondering if you did anything wrong... you did not.
how can we help you?
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (3 December 2015):
 sounds like a a weirdo...get a lock for your door
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 December 2015):
 Of course he thinks there is nothing wrong with him! Someone who can't have a grown up relationship (not just one with a GF/BF) but other people around them has issues. And probably issues they refuse to accept and deal with.
YOUR best bet is to forget that you wasted 8 months on this fella and move on.
What in the World did you want with a 31 year old who pays X-box all day/night and works 2 hours a day anyways? He lives in la-la land - thinks getting married to someone he doesn't know THAT well is great one week, the next week it's all too much.
Eh, let it go. And don't beat yourself up for having dated him, but maybe.. be a little more picky in the future?
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