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writes:i am 23 yrs old i have a male friend that i grew up with since 7th grade we lost contact, and ran into each other this year. so we have been conversating i am single he say tha he single so we had sexual invovlement more than once and i spend the nite at his house so i was being confuse one min he act if he want more than frienship, but then he pass three or four dayz without calling. then he make jokes about me having a baby by him but then he party every weekend then after the clubs he calls me to come over so i go. okay so the other day i told him that i like him and no more having sex cuz until he want a relationship with me and i ask him how he felt about the desicison that i made he said that he was going to call me back but that been three dayz ago he never did how should i handle dis situation
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Um he sounds like he is more into partying and having sex than into a relationship. He probably doesn't want to settle down quite yet but then again I don't know the guy, just my thinking that if he was interested in a relationship he would've said yes... rather than saying he needed to think about it and not call for 3 days. I guess you can wait for him. DON'T call him by any means, you said your piece and you don't want to seem desperate or needy. If he doesn't call back then he isn't interested and you move on. But please don't have sex with him again if he decides he doesn't want a relationship with you. Even though you like him it would be allowing him to use you. My advice is to get someone a bit more mature. Good luck with everything.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Three days may be pretty quick for a guy to decide whether or not he intends to get into a serious relationship with someone. Give him a little more time. But no more sex. You're not interested in just a casual thing, so be true to yourself and tell him to "forget it" until he makes up his mind about whether or not he is serious. Let him call you and tell you what he's decided.
If he isn't serious, then it's time for you to find someone who is thinking along the same line as you are.
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (3 July 2008):
wow i really admire you taking a bold step and cooling it off untill you get what you deserve and hey thats more then sex... its commitment and love. i am in a simialr position but cant v
bring myself to say no as i stupidly believe that id rather have him like that then not have him at all. though i know this is stupid hence im admiring your boldness...
but here its obvious he doesnt want anything more then sex from you, like dearkelja said stick to your guns and dont give in to him... find someone who will give u what you wnt and there are plenty around :) you derserve better then to play second fiddle to a guy who cant keep it in his pants
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Good for you in making the decision. Stick to your guns. It does sound like he didn't take your relationship as anything more than sex. Sometimes when a relationship is founded on that it is hard to turn it into more. If he doesn't respond to you within 7 days of you telling him that then move on knowing he was using you for sex. And that was not what you wanted, right? No loss.
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