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writes:hi im 16 yr old and i met this 18 yr old guy 1 week b4 my 16th bday and on the 3rd night we slept together and it was my first time he was so full on and told me by the 2nd week he was in love with me and he was over the whole dating thing and he wanted to eventully marry me .he was the nicest guy in the world and we just clicked the night b4 my birthday i asked if i was gonig to see him 2moro and he said yes in the moring he sent the txt "happy birthday gorgeous" and said he couldnt come out with me for dinner.when i went out for dinner with my fam i sent a txt "if i get drunk and kiss or sleep with someone its not my fault cos ur not here" it was wrong and i regret it and i was joking at the time cos i would never do tht the next day i apologised and he was sending me joking txts and on tuesday night i asked him if he still want us to be together and he said "yes of course i do i love you" again on wednesday he sent joking txts to me.on thursday night he sent "are you pregnant?" to which i replied "what kinda question is tht lol" he replied "are you?" i said no and we kinda had a little fight on friday i sent "where do we stand now? he didnt reply i sent tht night "if you dont reply then im moving state he said "ok" i asked him if we were still together and he said "you threatened me on ur bday and made me chose between my family and you and i chose my family and you threatened to cheat" i told him i loved him and at 5-30am on saturday he sent "its over" i told him i loved him and he said "im not responding again" if anyone can help me figure this guy out it would be great cos i love him and i dont know wat to do.thank-you so much xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): What was your fight about on that Friday? I am sensing here that something happened, that definitely changed the dynamics of this relationship and it happened so suddenly. Care to share that with us?
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reader, clickyclick  +, writes (13 October 2007):
 Well, this guy seems like he was all words nothing else. It sounds like he was just saying he wanted to marry you just to relive his sexual needs. Babe, if a guy treats you this way it's obvious he don't trust you or love you, but then again he might just be a guy who is getting the word 'like' mixed up with the word 'love'.
babe, if he treats you this way he does'nt seem worth whining about him if he truely loves you let him stew, just don't talk to him see if he talks to you, and depending on what he says he might love you.
Good Luck,
Clickyclick
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): Ok, now you will hear from an older female....I may be from a different culture than you, but I think this is a universal truth.
Boys will act "as if" they are in love with you to get sex from you. As soon as the deed is done, they may go for it again, but you have lost their respect. Boys and men of any quality do not respect a girl who uses her sex to trap them into a relationship, nor do they value girls who give up their body so easily and so quickly, this is true for boys and men of all ages, no matter if they act as if, they want sex in the beginning and if that is what they get from you, they lose motivation to get to know the real you and lose interest just as quickly as they came on to you, and just as full on flat out, stay out of my life.
Your threat just sealed the deal, the idea in his mind that you have no self love or worth, that you are not to be trusted, you are a tramp who uses sex to control guys.
You need to grow up and stop behaving like a round heeled bimbo, get your own life, get interested in something other than having sex and get passionate about your own interests and goals.....don't have sex for a long time if you want to have a relationship....a guy who loves you will be happy just spending time in your company.
End of Sermon.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (13 October 2007):
I think the two of you fell in lust not love. Then you acted like a sl**. He got worried that you might have gotten pregnant from his action. Now he sees you as a danger to his well being. Maybe you should wait to become more mature before driving guys wild.
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