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*ebeccaa
writes:Hi, this might drag on but ill try not to ramble! So i have just split up with somone because he didnt want a relationship he now has a new girlfriend and im finding it hard to get over it. Anyway just after we broke up a new boy came to our school (this is our last year) i have known him from being little as he is a family friend and he was at my uncles wedding years ago. He has now come to our school and been here about a week, i added him on facebook so i could give him some advice and tell him if he needed me i would look out for him i also have both his parents on facebook. Eventually he started becoming very friendly with me and asked for my number i gave it him. I told him about my recent relationship and how very distraught i am he said he was their for me, and that i am a pretty girl. The next day he admitted he liked me, after a few days i agreed to give him a try even tho i wasnt ready for it which i told him. I told him after a day or too it wasnt going to work because im still not over my previous relationship. I also dont like him in that way.He is still begging me a week later too give it another try but i have told him i do not like him in that way and listed every reason why i do not want to go out with him, but he is still saying he didnt try hard enough i told him it wasn't that he was not trying hard enough it was because i do not feel romantically attracted to him, yet he continuted too beg and plead.Eventually he had a go at me saying how my ex doesnt want me and he has moved on and its time for me to. Which hurt me, yes my ex might have moved on, but i cant just click my fingers and forget about him, that also doesnt mean i have to go out with him. I am getting over my ex but its just taking time it has only been a week and a few days since he broke up with me. He also started swearing at me and telling me he doesnt care about me anymore and he isn't bothered, he also deleted me off facebook. He is now constantly texting me. Why on earth is he being like he is? He doesnt seem normal, and what can i do to stop it ? Thankyou
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (20 September 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (20 September 2011):
Tell him in no uncertain terms that there is no chance of you ever having a relationship with him, and tell him you don't want to be friends and to stop contacting you (explain that the reason is that what he has said to you and treated you is unforgivable)
You must then ignore ALL contact from him, as otherwise you will be sending him mixed messages.
You should also tell some close friends or family what is going on, just in case the situation doesn't sort itself out.
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (20 September 2011):
Just ignore him completely. Don't respond to anything he does. it sounds like he has trouble handling not getting what he wants. He's trying different tactics to get you to do what he wants: begging and pleading, then if that doesn't work then swearing at you, then if that didn't get the reaction he wanted from you he's back to texting you constantly.
the key is you just need to not respond to any thing he does, only then will he eventually give up because he'll finally feel it's not worth his time.
the exception is if he threatens to harm you or himself or alludes to having violent intentions. Then you need to get a teacher or school counselor involved.
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reader, GoodDog +, writes (19 September 2011):
 He sounds like someone who is controlling, immature and can't take 'no' for an answer.
If he really did like you and wanted to help you by being there for you, he wouldn't become verbally abusive and act childish. He has shown his true colours as they say.
Best thing is to delete his number and any other form of contact you have with him (e-mail, etc) and ignore him completely. He will probably keep trying for a while, but stay strong and he should get the message soon enough.
If he does continue or becomes more threatening, I'd mention it to a parent or teacher. You shouldn't have to put up with this, especially after going through a recent break-up.
Wish you well.
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