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writes:I have been with my husband for 24 years, he is very controlling with me. to make a very long story short this guy started talking to me at work, we got to really enjoy each others company. the only problem is that for one he's only 27 im 41, but he thought i was 32. he has a kid with his wife, and he tells me he is only with her because he loves his kid very much. he does show me he likes me, when he sees me in the hall he just stares at me, or he will blow me kisses. i really like him a lot, im just confused, I told him that im not in a hurry for a relationship, and that I would wait for him because of his kid. Who is 7.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim getting divorce, im going on monday, we been together since we were teenager.we have 3kids together,and they dont want me to b with him, because he is mentally abusive to me and r kids. im just confused about the guy im talking 2.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 June 2010):
 This can be divided into two parts. One, if you are unhappy in your marriage, either work to fix it, or leave him. If he's abusive--"controlling" is a code word for that--then it's time to get out.
Second, a guy who's married and has a child is a man with a lot of baggage. Looking at you and blowing kisses at you is a very very long way from indicating that he wants to marry you or even date you. It's more of an indication that he finds you physically appealing.
I think you're finding this guy at work interesting because you are scared or too intimidated to do the work necessary to deal with your marriage. You must have been very young when you got together with your husband, what, 17? 18? You don't have a whole wealth of experience with dating and this might be a big case of misunderstanding this guy's motives. So be very careful about this.
Deal with the real issue first. That would be your marriage.
Take care.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (17 June 2010):
 You're married for 24 years and presumably still are.
What's there to be confused about?
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