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anonymous
writes: Hi!I'm with my gf for 4 years. She knew from the beginning that I would be her Mr. Right, but I was not sure about her until 2 month ago. She told me to finally think about it half a year ago... I realize it was frustrating to her, because she wanted to get married and I still didn't know...Well, my problem is: I told her, that It's 100% now, that I want to marry her. But now she is frustrated, that I didn't surprise her with an engagement. She wants me to ask her and she'd like to get a surprise, but she is frustrated, that it wont be a surprise any more... I don't quite understand why, but she really seems to be unhappy about that and is complaining a lot. What can I do? Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): sounds like you need to up the romance factor. you haven't done anything wrong, but she sounds like she is a little hurt by the clinical approach to your descision. women like to be reminded that after all those years they still are special. its the same when she gopes out of her way to cook your favorite meal, changes her hair for you, to try to please your senses- her senses are more intuned with the heart. put yourself out there if you wish to marry this woman, and maybe schedule sometime either monthly or bi- monthly to do something simple and sweet for her- it will be an effort greatly rewarded in the end.
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