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anonymous
writes:i'm male 21 and i love a girl of 25. The tragedy is that she enjoys a lot talking with me, sharing his everything with me. Both of us don't give importance and priority to sex. I really love her and I will not be able to live without her. Whenever, i tell her i love her she always tells that she is very bad and requests me not to love her. She tells me to marry somebody else and forget her. Why? i don't understand her properly. Does she love me? What is running in her mind? Will she marry me? Reply to this Question
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 I partly agree with DV1 about her not wantin to be tied down, but as a girl, I think she means that she doesn't want to be with you in that way.
Leave her for a while, see what happens, don't push it though.
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female
reader, Advicehunny  +, writes (5 June 2007):
Try not to keep sounding desprate and leave her to make up her mind. If it does not work try forgeting about her and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): Love its a shame because you are so inlove with her but i think she isnt ready for any kind of commitment, and by what you say it sounds as if she may be seeing another man. It certainly sounds like she isnt being totaly honest with you and you may have to accept this and move on with the hope that you can remain friends as you say the sex isnt the priority good luck and take care of you xx
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female
reader, love-him +, writes (5 June 2007):
 hey, maybe shes got a guilty concience.. or maybe she doesnt wish to be in such a commited relationship.. or maybe she has decided you both arnt meant to be.. there could be many reasons.. its up to you to find them out.. if she is telling you she is very bad, id suggest asking her if there is another lover in her life.. hope i helped, mail me if you want to talk x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): well me being a girl i would have to say you're too clingy and it might creep her out. you should never tell anyone that you cant live with out them, because you can and you will. anyways, you have to move on because obviously shes not interested and you just relax and chill with your next relationship
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (5 June 2007):
 In my eyes she may be hiding something from you, but this is just a guess.
Someone who says these things arent being totally honest with themselves. if it was a case of her not wanting to be tied down to a relationship, surely she would say?
You said the both of you never used sex as a basis of your relationship which means there was alot more there than heated lust. Which is why i think she is hiding something.
It may not be more than just her not telling you how she feels, but this excuse is a fairly vague answer and doesnt explani alot on how she feels; except she has a low view of herself.
If she wont give you more of an explaination, consider writing her a letter and letting her read this in the comfort of her own home where she can really take in the situation.
But give her the space she may need. Over time she may come realise what she has lost and want it back. This isnt certain but giving both of you the space will help both of you put things in perspective, rather than feeding of your emotions.
Be patient and stay strong.
R
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reader, DV1  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 I've heard those words before. It means that she's not the type of person to be tied down to one person, and she's not ready to change into what you want. The best thing that you can do is move on.
DV1
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