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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay, well, recently my girlfriend of only one month has become extremely upset with me. Why? Personally, I think it is because she is very over emotional, but many girls are. I care very much about this girl, much, muchhh more than any other girl I have dated.So you are asking yourself why is she upset with me... Well, recently she asked me if I had seen any woman(besides one we had already discussed) naked, picture-wise. I told her no(because I really havent), and she asked me if I swore on her life, and of course I did, because I wasnt lying. Well, then she asked me if I had seen anybody on the internet naked, and I told her yes(honestly, what 15 year old guy hasnt seen porn atleast once?). Then she totally flipped shit. I tried explaining to her that I thought she knew every teenage guy had seen porn before, which is why I swore on her life when I said I hadnt seen anyone else naked.She barely trusts me at all anymore, and I guess because its a huge misunderstanding its understandable. So I was just wondering, how do I gain back her trust? Because, I mean, she trusted me A LOT. I just want her trust back, because without trust, this relationship is going to go downhill, VERY fast.Any help would be appreciated, anything at all.Thank you.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 November 2009):
Yep, the anonymous person is right. You have a very bad attitude and I wouldn't trust you as far as I could throw you.
Personally, I think the reason she doesn't trust you is because you are a liar, but then many boys are.... oh wait is that unfair??? You see my point.
She asked you if you'd seen anyone naked and you said no when you had, simple as that. Now she thinks everything you say is going to have some loophole in it so you can argue you weren't really lying and she's just being "over emotional."
Apologise for lying to her and promise you will be open with her from now on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): Well you werent technically lying. I am not sure what you mean by "picture wise" but I take it you thought that at first you were only talking real life. Then went to talk about over internet. She misunderstood you, she probably meant the two as the same thing.
But also one reason why she might be upset is the same reason why I now think you are a prick. "she is very over emotional, but many girls are" Thanks, thats offensive. Thats like me saying all guys are jerks. If you go around her talking like she's being over reacting, not taking her feelings seriously, it is grounds for huge problems! You need to take her seriously, even if you dont understand why she reacts the way she does. Women can react different to men (or boys) and the other way around, there are many things guys will over-react to in a womans eyes.
Respect her, even if you are generalizing women by nature. By showing her respect, she might show you trust again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): Tell her you won't look at porn anymore.
And then don't.
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