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writes: I text a girl on my mobile asking her out by using a poem and I told her how i felt saying she was beautiful and stuff. she text me back saying it meant a lot to her but she doesn't want to risk our friendship because if we split she would get awkward with me so i told her it was ok but i was a bit disappointed, as you would be. Because it was late at night we said good night to each other and I thought telling her how I felt went well. but i haven't talked to her in over a month now and i really want to talk to her but I am to shy. On top of this i have known her for 6 years but i haven't cared alot for her all these years and we are now both 15. so my questions are:1. when she says it could get awkward is that just a polite way of saying i don't like you i just want to stay friends or does she really mean it because we did say night to each other and she put 3 kisses at the end and of the other texts she only put 1?2.will she think the same of me or have more respect for me after i texted her that she was beutiful,caring and all the other stuff?3.how can i start talking to her again because we are only in one class together and i am desperate to start talking to her again. she said i could put my arm around her and hug her more. i want to do these things but i hold back and i don't no why?
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reader, Teen Worier  +, writes (25 June 2008):
when she say shes doesnt want to reck ur freindship she isnt being nasty she wouldrather stay freinds than risk ur freindship for something that could last 2 mins ! do u get what i mean ?
and she wants more hugs so she can feel sucure and safer around you so she can let her guard down !
d.w about it and let all things flow nautraly it will all go bck to normal in the end !
and sometimes in the play ground when u are at school just talk to her or hug her she will like that u are making the effot !
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2005): sorry babe but that means that she doesnt like you in that way and she's just too nice a person to say it bluntly. ive said this to many guys and thats what i always mean. never mind though - onwards and upwards, just be her friend and pretend like nothing happened xxx
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reader, kt +, writes (13 June 2005):
 Well, dating a friend can be very difficult! First off, you will have to stop looking at that person as a friend and more as a lover - which can get uncomfortable. Second falling out or splitting up can make the friendship very uncomfortable too.So when she said that it would make the relationship between you two awkward she was probably not kidding.Or maybe she was saying no thanks in a nice way so that your friendship would still be strong, when she could have said it alot plainer. So really you have nothing to be worried about. you proberly just abit disappointed and abit emmbareced about the incident so it is making things awkward. the best thing to do is to just forget it happened and just look back and laugh at it. If you still want her here are some tips1) Well ok get talking first, you can not do anything until you are back to normal! Maybe in class just bring a conversation on how boring the lesson is or something. And to begin with don’t flirt.2) After about a couple of weeks of "just being friends" try to get her to come out with you and maybe some more mates.3) Get to now her more ask her what’s on her mind and ask who she fancies.4) Now you can start flirting but don’t make it too obveious. To find out what she likes in a boy pick out all the good and bad things she likes in all the boys she fancies and start being all the good things and not the bad things, but still don’t make it obveious.5) Keep doing this until she starts to flirt back.6) Play maybe a bit of hard to get. Start to say how fit the other girls are and so on, every girl likes a bit of compation and maybe start to flirt with them, see what her reaction is. If it’s a positive (jealous) action then its time to make your move!But just remember don’t come on too strong to begin with ok!
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (13 June 2005):
 As a girl of 15, i would know what this girl means when she says she would feel awkward if you split up and still were friends after. It is not a polite way of saying she doesn't like you because she lets you hug her and put your arm around her. What she is trying to say is if you split up with her she might still like you and feel upset about being your friend when she wants to be more than that. Or if she broke up with you, and you were very upset, she would have to face you again because you are friends and she will regret what she did and it would make her feel upset. You want to talk to her again, i suggest you text her asking if she wants to go out to a park or somewhere quiet where you can talk. Tell her you understand what she means and that you wouldn't do anything to hurt her, or disappoint her in any way. Tell her how you truly feel, not in a text tell it to her face, because girls of our age think you are messing around, or don't know what to reply. if you are with eachother she will have to say something back if you are together.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (13 June 2005):
 It could be that she was trying to let you down gently, and would rather have your friendship than anything else, or it could also be that she does like you, but isnt ready for anything else yet, and because of this is too scared to try as she feels that she will then lose what you already have. Just act normal around her like you always have done, talk to her, text her be the way you always have been, good friends. Hang out together that type thing. Maybe ask her what her plans are for the weekends and things like that and gradually make headway that way, maybe you will eventually hook up... take it slowly just be a freind a see what happens... be the way you always have been with her, dont let that change, but just see if time will make you closer, there is no rush take it a day at a time and see what happens, good freinds are hard to come by.
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (13 June 2005):
 Hey, ok going out with someone that you have been friends with for many of years, and then going out and even breaking up could or may even ruin your friendship. It's true.You guys could get into a huge fight and you may end off calling her names that really hurt her. If you guys are going out or not, its still going to be awkward being around someone that has called you those names. Do you understand what I am trying to say? When someone says that it'll ruin your friendship, that usually means that they do have feelings for you enough to go out with you.But honestly, it really could ruin your friendship. It is hard to tell whether they have the same feelings for you as you do to them. The best thing to do is to talk to her about the whole situation. She is most likely not going to show respect for you just becuase of that. she is going to feel a little weird around you knowing that your good friends have massive feelings for you and wants to go out with them. A little tip..... dont nag her on. Example.- if she says f**k you. dont be all like oh yeah sexy, later on. She will be frightened to think that the only thing that you want from her is sex. get your mind out of the gutter and have mature discusions with her. let her think that she can tell you anything and that you can be serious. gurls like that. lol. I am thinking that the reason that you hold back is bcuz you know that she knows that you like her a lot. I know how you mean. you feel uncomfortable. you feel as if you can sit there and hold her for hrs. and when you get the chance to, to hold back bcuz your worried that she will think differently about you. Next time you the chance to wrap your arms around her, dont hold back. if you are gentle, and sensitive and look in her eyes as if she is a goddess or something, she will realize that she like when you touch her bcuz it makes her feel special knowing that someone loves her. trust me. well i gotta go and sort out other peoples problems. I am 14 years old. i want to be a psychologist when i grow up. im gonna be the best . email me sometime at [email address blocked]. we can talk about anything. im here for you. good luck. trust me. ~Robin~ aka advive gurl. lol
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reader, Stallion +, writes (13 June 2005):
I understand where you're coming from but these things take time - what you need to do is text her and see what she's doing at the weekend etc... Don't mention caring about her just yet. Whenever she needs someone if you are a good friend it will be you she turns to. Try and keep it discreet so she can gain trust in you. Don't tell anyone you text her just yet. Try and defend her when she needs it without patronising her or making her feel she can't do things herself. If you are as sentimental as you sound show her something in a friend that she's never seen before and you should come out on top.....go on, text her. At the end of the day you have nothing to lose and you need to keep that attitude and hold your head high. Females can pick up on someone with no confidence straight away and most find it very unatractive. Try to show her the real you.
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