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writes: I have a little problem, well, it' not really small to me.I've told everyone I’ve dumped my boyfriend, because i really want to, and i will. Just finding it incredibly hard cause i love him, but the bad things outweigh the good by far (i posted the question: Relationship from hell: But I can’t leave him!) the problem is, i am gonna dump him, but I’ve been nice to him lately and i don't think i have the guts to do it. :(What’ll i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionrocknroll, I’ve given him hundreds of chances, he just never changes that's why I’m ending it, all the bad are listed in the other question I asked. I just feel really stupid for giving him so many chances. Thank you everyone who answered my question.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 if you want to end things with this guy there is no nice way of doing it. i would speak to him and see if you can sort through the problems at hand. if you cannot then tell him face to face that you dont see yourself having a future with him as your not compatible as you hoped.good luck
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reader, rocknroll  +, writes (24 July 2009):
I can only guess that you might be a little amusing to be watching now.I can only guess that he might be being told as you read this by one of the people you told.You say you love him, that the bad out weights the good.What are the bad?If he corrected these things, would you take him back?If he is willing to correct these things, even with your help, then I suggest you politely write down what these bad things are. Just don't say "I hate this", but also give him insight as to who you are and how it makes you feel bad and hurt. If he is doing half of it right, knowing the other side of you can give him insight who he is dealing with and change his behavior. No doubt he might slip up, but you may see his eyes get big as he automatically apologizes ... meaning he is learning.Keep in mind that there maybe things you are saying that hurts him, and that you will also need to refrain in talking in that manner.Good luck!
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reader, orlandblm8 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 You need to 'man up'. Because there are people out there who Marry out of fear instead of love, and they are the most unhappy people. It sucks being that way, and I know you don't want to hurt him or yourself, but there are things that you have to do. The longer you wait, the more it will hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): If you are actually planning on breaking up with him, the best thing would be to tell him soon--especially if you've already told "everyone" that you dumped him. How long will it be before someone else says to him, "sorry to hear about your breakup", and he will wonder what they're talking about...you don't want to leave it like that. Burn your own bridges, don't make someone else have to be the bearer of bad news.
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